There is a saying:
“It’s easy for two people to have different dreams in the same bed.”
Some people have been together for a long time, but they have no idea what the other person is thinking.
Maybe the other person often tells you that they love you, so you believe it without a doubt.
Many people, even if they don’t like someone, will still date or even marry that person.
Who doesn’t want to marry someone who loves them and whom they also love? So, when dating, you must be clear whether the other person really has you in their heart.
If someone truly loves you, they won’t do things that indicate they don’t love you. Pay attention to this.
Disregarding your feelings
Most of the time, if someone loves another person, they will consider the other person’s feelings when they do things.
In life, there are always some minor conflicts. If, during these arguments, one insists on being right without considering the other’s feelings, it means they don’t care about the other person.
There’s a saying:
“In an argument, the first person to back down isn’t conceding, but is afraid of losing the other, that’s why.”
So, in life, if you meet someone who always yields to you and cares about your feelings, cherish that person.
Some people never care about your feelings. They may say they love you, but end up hurting you in situations, making them unreliable.
Therefore, in life, find someone who cares about you and considers your feelings in everything they do.
Going to the hospital alone
Sometimes when you’re sick, if the other person lets you go to the hospital alone, it means they don’t really care about you. Because if they truly cared, they wouldn’t let you suffer alone.
A friend once told me:
“Every time I get sick, I have to go to the hospital alone. My boyfriend never accompanies me. Sometimes, I faint in the hospital feeling helpless, as if I don’t have a boyfriend.”
Imagine a person who never takes care of you when you’re sick. How much do they really love you?
So, if a man does this to you, making you go to the hospital alone, it’s better to part ways with such a person.
Of course, women are the same. If a woman lets her boyfriend go to the hospital alone and doesn’t take care of him when he’s sick, it shows she doesn’t care about him.
Meeting someone who doesn’t care about your health, it’s better to part ways sooner to avoid future harm.
Putting their parents first
Some people claim to love you, but prioritize their parents.
Sometimes, when there’s a conflict between the loved one and their parents, they side with their parents. In life, we call such men “mommy’s boys,” and such women are also common.
If someone truly loves you, they won’t let their parents do something that hurts you, thus hurting you themselves.
If they love you, they’ll treat you like family. Therefore, you and their parents are equally important, and they wouldn’t hurt you because of their parents.
If you meet someone who values their parents a lot and always takes their parents’ side over yours, it’s best to leave them early.
Doing things that hurt you
Sometimes we tend to do things that hurt others. But if you truly love someone, you’ll be mindful of such actions and avoid them.
Some people claim to love someone but end up hurting them. Their love is unreliable.
In the past, a classmate encountered such a situation.
This classmate had a boyfriend who wasn’t good to her and sometimes did things to hurt her.
Once the boyfriend acted inappropriately with someone else outside and didn’t apologize upon returning.
This classmate was deeply hurt and fell into depression.
If you truly love someone, you wouldn’t do things that hurt them.
Love doesn’t tolerate third parties. If someone can hurt you in a relationship, it means they don’t truly have you in their heart.
Loving someone means protecting them with care, not hurting them.
In life, both men and women, when in love, find their partners very lovable. Sometimes when they feel wronged, they also feel very sad.
So, someone who causes you harm doesn’t really love you. Watch out for such people.
Making decisions without telling you
If you want to spend your life with someone sincerely, you’ll surely inform them of your decisions.
A while ago, a male colleague said:
“He got into a graduate program in another city but hasn’t told his girlfriend yet, planning to go there secretly.”
This man is unreliable. When making such a decision, he should have informed his girlfriend. If she loves him, she would support him.
When making decisions, be clear that choosing means being in a long-distance relationship with your girlfriend.
When making such a decision, inform your girlfriend beforehand. If you want to be with her and she loves you, she might try to be with you in the same place.
But this male colleague didn’t tell his girlfriend, indicating he had ulterior motives.
Often, if you truly love someone, you’ll inform them of your decisions. Otherwise, it’s deceit.
Deceit has no place in relationships, especially in love.
So, don’t be afraid of the consequences of your decisions. Not telling the other person will only damage your relationship.
When faced with someone who deceives you and doesn’t inform you of their decisions, you should know they don’t have you in their heart.
A person who doesn’t have you in their heart will treat you like this. To know if someone truly has you, observe their actions, don’t fall for sweet words.
Believing their words blindly will lead to a painful end. Judging someone’s love should be based on their actions.