Every woman wants to be smart and outstanding, so she can take control of her own life and live the way she wants.
What does a successful woman look like?
In a woman’s heart, it should be someone who has the right to speak, dares to express her thoughts, and earns respect.
In the original family, she should be able to speak freely in front of her parents and be a woman cherished by them, enjoying her family time freely.
In her own small family, she should have a husband who loves and respects her. She should have the right to speak and make decisions in any choice.
Perhaps this situation seems simple and easy, but not every woman can enjoy such treatment.
The reason is simply the result of a woman’s habits.
By losing her principles and thoughts at the beginning, and always listening to others’ opinions, she naturally loses herself and begins to live according to others’ thoughts.
Smart women can control their words and actions, and still manage to control their mouths.
Amy is a woman with no firm opinions. Her parents favored her younger brother, so Amy’s position at home was average.
When she reached the marriageable age, her parents arranged blind dates with men of good conditions for her. Although Amy didn’t like it, she didn’t dare to express her thoughts and followed her parents’ arrangements.
During the marriage, the bride price given by the groom’s family was all taken by her parents, without giving her anything.
Although Amy was upset, feeling her parents were too biased, she thought she could leave her parents and live without their influence after marriage.
She thought she could live her own life after leaving her parents and starting her own family.
But after marrying into her husband’s family, her good days didn’t last long before her husband and mother-in-law’s attitude changed, no longer respecting her as before.
They felt she was brought into the family, and since they paid the bride price, she should serve the family well.
Feeling unjust, Amy didn’t dare to speak her mind.
After a few years of marriage, feeling mistreated at her in-laws, when she told her parents she wanted a divorce, they said, “If you want a divorce, go ahead, but don’t come back here afterwards. We won’t return the bride price.”
Seeing her parents’ attitude, Amy felt hopeless and regretted not resisting in the beginning. If she hadn’t listened to her parents, she wouldn’t be living like this now.
A person’s character and thoughts directly determine the life they will lead.
Just like Amy, if she had been herself from the beginning, expressed her thoughts, and made decisions for her marriage, she wouldn’t be in this situation now.
In the end, it’s because Amy couldn’t control her words and actions. Even if she had thoughts, she didn’t dare to speak out, and finally accepted her parents’ arrangement to marry a man she didn’t love, leading to an unwanted marriage.
Such a woman is undoubtedly a foolish one, entrusting her life to others, only to regret her inaction and silence after suffering.
Linda is someone who doesn’t think before speaking, straightforward by nature.
She was okay in front of her parents and friends, who knew her well, understanding that she was straightforward but kind-hearted. Sometimes, speaking in a not-so-nice way was overlooked.
But the world doesn’t only consist of family and friends; there are many other relationships, such as colleagues, competitors, in-laws, and spouses.
When Linda worked in the previous company, the boss had strict demands and often made them redo their work.
As a result, her colleagues often complained about the company.
Linda was hot-tempered. When feeling wronged, she immediately vented, unable to control her mouth. If a colleague said something, she would say ten things in response to show her resentment.
Eventually, someone reported her words to the boss, and she was soon fired.
Linda regretted it. Although the company had some flaws, she only complained a few times. She never thought of leaving the company, and now, finding a job is so difficult. How could she just throw away a good job?
This experience made Linda more cautious. She would pay more attention to her words and actions, control her mouth, and not give anyone a reason to hold against her.
The saying “trouble comes out of the mouth” holds true. Every word spoken should be taken responsibility for.
Perhaps your family and friends can forgive you, but not everyone can. In competitive relationships like colleagues, if you can’t control your mouth, don’t blame others for reporting you.
A woman who can’t control her mouth is also a foolish one. Perhaps the words spoken in a moment of impulse will ultimately hurt you, and only you will be responsible for your words and actions.
Whether at work, in life, or in love, one should control their mouth and not say what shouldn’t be said. Think about the consequences of your words before speaking.
A smart woman can control her words and still manage to control her mouth.
This is because they understand a principle: what needs to be said must be said, expressing their thoughts. What shouldn’t be said must not be said, not casually hurting others.
Such women can maintain their lives, work, and love well, and enjoy their state of being.