Being Single at an Older Age Is Actually Not That Scary
You know, when people are in their twenties, hardly anyone really doesn’t want to get married.
But even if they really want to get married, if they never meet that special someone in life, then no matter how much they want it, it’s just not going to happen.
As they get older, many people start feeling the pressure to hurry up and find someone to marry. They worry that as they get older, their options will become more limited, and it will be harder to find someone.
With this mindset, some people might settle for just about anyone, even if they don’t actually like them, just to get the marriage over with.
While many people may have this thought, most can’t bring themselves to do it.
They worry about being older and still single, but they also know that they can’t settle.
If this sounds like you when it comes to love and marriage, then you really don’t need to worry too much. Being single at an older age is really not as scary as you think.
Many Married People Are Still Lonely
For many people, the idea of getting married, starting a family, having meals together, and doing things as a couple seems like the epitome of happiness. Being single, in contrast, seems lonely and desolate.
But in reality, many married people know that things are not as perfect as they seem.
What others see as a perfect life is often just a facade. Even if someone is married, they still deal with a lot of emotions on their own and handle many things alone.
In fact, even when their spouse is right beside them, they can still feel incredibly lonely.
Thinking that marriage will cure loneliness is not realistic. Loneliness is a normal part of life.
So, you really don’t have to fret when you see everyone else getting married and think that life is getting more lively. Don’t rush into marriage without understanding why you want to get married. Hoping that marriage will cure your loneliness will most likely lead to disappointment.
Being with someone you don’t love won’t fill the void in your heart; it will only make you feel more incomplete.
Marriage Is a Big Deal, and Who You Marry Is Key
The difficulty of marriage doesn’t lie in finding someone willing to marry you; it’s finding someone you truly want to marry and spend the rest of your life with that’s the real challenge.
Don’t underestimate marriage. Marrying the wrong person will make your life very different indeed.
When you and your spouse are not compatible and can’t communicate, leading very different lives, you won’t feel any happiness. Instead, you’ll often feel a great deal of pain.
In fact, choosing the wrong person can make you even more unhappy than when you were single.
Marriage with the wrong person is much scarier than being single.
You should know that marriage isn’t just about getting married; it’s about wanting to live with someone to make each other’s lives better and more hopeful.
A quality marriage isn’t something everyone can give you. For someone who clearly can’t give you that kind of life, you really shouldn’t just settle. If you settle for a marriage, it will only settle for you and make you regret it.
Live Your Best Life and Wait for That Person
When you’re in your late twenties and see everyone else getting married, while you’re still single, it’s normal to feel anxious. You might be eager to get married like everyone else.
But when you reach your thirties and are still single, you might realize that it’s not as unbearable as you thought. Even if you’re single at thirty, it’s okay. What matters is not whether you’re alone or with someone, but whether you’re living a good life and whether you’re happy.
Don’t overthink it. It doesn’t matter if you’re getting older and still single. What matters is whether you’re happy and content with your current life.
If you’re making the most of your time, constantly improving yourself, and living happily, then even if no one is with you, your time is still valuable.
Since you haven’t met that special someone yet, why not wait a little longer?
Wait until you become a better version of yourself and until that person comes into your world, into your life.
Waiting may seem like a waste of time, but it’s meaningful. It will make you realize how difficult it is to meet someone and make you cherish that relationship even more after you finally meet them.
When it comes to marriage, in your twenties, it’s important to put in the effort to find that special someone.
But if you’ve already tried your best and still haven’t found anyone, and accidentally become an older single, you really don’t need to worry too much or overthink it.
Life and marriage don’t have a set timeline for success or getting married by a certain age.
Some people meet their love at twenty but end their marriage at twenty-five. Some get married and have their first child after ten years. Some don’t meet the right person until they’re in their thirties, and they still turn out just fine.
Everyone’s situation is different, and there’s no need to force anything. Just focus on yourself and continue living your life.
Keep searching for the right person while making the most of your life.
Be ready to welcome that person into your life, but also be prepared for the possibility that they may never come.