In relationships, it’s often difficult to clearly define what’s right and wrong. Although we start with good intentions, whether we can head towards happiness is not something one person can decide.
Sometimes you pour your heart and soul into loving someone, only to have your passion consumed by the other person’s indifference.
Love is a two-way street, and it can’t be completed by one person alone. No matter who you are, emotional setbacks are unavoidable.
For many people, 2020 was a tough year, and Liang Jingru was no exception. In December 2019, she announced her divorce, and her concert in 2020 was put on hold.
That year, her career almost came to a standstill, and she was deeply affected by her divorce. She admitted that she was anxious and stressed, and even sought help from a psychologist. It wasn’t until the second half of 2020 that she started to adjust her emotions and began a new romance.
For anyone, getting a divorce is not a happy thing.
It takes great courage for two people to decide to get married, have children, and grow old together. It’s not just about love; it requires a lot of effort.
Liang Jingru has had a smooth career since her debut and has become a queen of the music industry. In 2010, she married Zhao Yuantong in the Philippines and had a son. They seemed like a loving couple, but in reality, their marriage was already troubled.
Women are often at a disadvantage in marriage because their attitudes towards love are different from men’s. Once they fall in love, it’s hard for them to back out.
Their marriage had already had its problems, but Liang Jingru kept hoping Zhao Yuantong would change his mind. However, in the end, she had to accept the fact that their marriage was over.
Is divorce liberation? Not necessarily for everyone.
Some people’s marriages are completely loveless, and every day together is a torment. In such cases, it’s better to separate and move on.
Some people get divorced on impulse and later regret it, trapped in guilt and self-blame.
Some people are forced to divorce because they still love the other person but can’t hold on to them.
Liang Jingru is the third type, which is why she couldn’t adjust her emotions and was troubled for a long time.
However, in the second half of 2020, news of her new romance spread, and many people admired her courage.
But is it wise to use a new romance as a way to redeem her emotions? Maybe Liang Jingru was a bit too hasty.
Divorce is a low point in one’s emotional journey. During this time, it’s essential to take a step back, reflect on the failed relationship, and learn from the experience to avoid making the same mistakes.
If you can’t accept the current situation, you can distract yourself by doing things you enjoy, which can help shift your focus away from your emotions and reduce the pain.
For those who have been hurt in love, it’s not easy to move on. But it’s precisely because of the pain that we can grow as individuals.
However, if we rush into a new relationship to escape the pain, it’s not a wise decision.
Moreover, when we’re in a low point, our judgment of emotions is impaired, and our emotional needs are different from usual. If we don’t make rational decisions, we may end up hurting ourselves again.
Xiaomei (not her real name) went on a blind date soon after her breakup, thinking that love is just a fairy tale, and it doesn’t matter who you’re with. With this mindset, she thought the guy was perfect, but she forgot to get to know him better.
As someone who had given more in her previous relationship, this time she just wanted to be cared for and accompanied. A woman who craves love and attention often feels that anyone who shows her kindness is genuinely in love with her.
In reality, Xiaomei rushed into marriage, but soon realized that her husband was not as gentle and caring as she thought. He had many bad habits that she couldn’t tolerate.
This life was more painful than her previous heartbreak, and Xiaomei sank deeper into misery.
She finally realized her mistake. When we’re hurt, it’s hard to calm down and think about what we need.
When we meet someone who’s willing to accompany us, we often rely on them, like a beggar who’s starving and will follow anyone who gives them food.
Because we’re in so much pain, we want to escape quickly and seek comfort in a new relationship. But in reality, this only leads to more pain.
In life, we often see couples with huge problems, and the woman tries to hold on to the man by having a child. But this only leads to more harm and is irresponsible.
Trying to quench your thirst with poison will only accelerate your death. It’s the same with emotions; if you don’t heal your old wounds, new ones will be hard to fill.
When Liang Jingru sang “Breakup Happiness” at her concert, she was overcome with emotion and couldn’t continue singing. It’s clear that her feelings are still deep.
Even though it’s been a year since her divorce, her ten-year relationship with Zhao Yuantong can’t be resolved with just a “breakup happiness” phrase. Those hidden wounds will eventually surface when you least expect it.
Although she has found a new romance, the true taste of it is something only she knows.
Ten years is not a short time, and for Liang Jingru, who’s middle-aged, it’s not something she can easily let go of.
Breakups are not happy events, and saying “breakup happiness” is often just a lie.
But rushing into a new relationship after a breakup is definitely not a cure.
The best way to deal with emotional failure is to stop, reflect, and accept the pain. Take your time to heal, and let your emotions settle.
If you rely too heavily on someone and it leads to the failure of your marriage or love, then focus on growing as a person and healing your heart.
Breakups are not necessarily happy, and after a breakup, you need to take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal. Let your emotions settle, and when you’re ready, you can start again.
When you can truly accept the past relationship, you’ve truly moved on.
Only then can you have the power to love, and you’ll be confident in your future relationships.