It’s Only When You Grow Old That You Realize the Loss of These Two Loved Ones Is the Greatest Tragedy of Your Life
I still remember when I took a bus home during the Spring Festival, and an old man was crying on the bus.
At that time, I didn’t know the old man, so I didn’t ask him much. I just heard someone behind me say:
“Someone in his family has passed away, and the old man is extremely sad. He just came back from the hospital and is on his way home.”
Seeing the old man’s sadness, I felt very distressed, but I didn’t know how to comfort him. The old man was so upset that he couldn’t catch his breath.
Xiaochu said*:*
“Life should be like a candle, burning brightly from top to bottom, always shining brightly.”
However, just like a candle, people will eventually burn out. Some people will burn out from head to toe, while others will burn out halfway.
Perhaps when we’re young, we don’t know how to cherish life because we haven’t faced loss and don’t know the pain of losing someone.
But when you grow old, you’ll realize that losing some loved ones is the greatest tragedy of your life.
Maybe sometimes people think that if they leave this world, they won’t have anything to worry about. They’ll just close their eyes and won’t know anything. The pain is usually borne by the people around them, especially the elderly.
When you grow old, you’ll realize that losing these two loved ones is the greatest tragedy of life.
Children
The most painful thing in the world is when the elderly send off the young.
I still remember when I was a kid, I talked to my grandma about my uncle. Grandma was extremely sad, and she told me:
“When my uncle was eight years old, he got sick and didn’t receive good medical care, which delayed his treatment. Eventually, he left this world.”
Whenever Grandma mentioned my uncle, she would burst into tears, and it was heartbreaking to see.
Parents are like children, and they dedicate their lives to their family. After having children, they learn to take responsibility and put their children first, even if it’s hard. Sometimes, even if it’s difficult, they won’t give up on their children.
But sometimes things in the world are unpredictable. No one knows what’s going to happen next. You might think that your child will always be with you, but sometimes they might leave, and you’ll be left with only memories of their lovely smile. Adults will also feel the pain and suffering.
When you grow old, your children will also grow up and leave, just like a neighbor whose child went abroad and never came back. The child has been gone for eight years, and the old man waited for eight years, but the son never returned. Eventually, the old man was hospitalized due to excessive grief, and both the old couple passed away.
Sometimes the elderly regard their children as extremely important. When these two old people passed away, they had one regret: they didn’t get to see their son one last time.
Although sometimes children might argue with their elderly parents because of different values, many people want to separate from their parents, just like when they get married, and their spouse might say:
“We should get married and live separately from your parents.”
Some men will compromise with their wives and leave their parents behind, moving out to live separately.
When they move out, they might only come back during holidays or when there’s a family emergency. Parents are always thinking of their children, but children might only come back when their parents are sick or in need.
“Raising children without being able to take care of them,” learn to respect and care for the elderly around you, and you’ll live without regret. The elderly regard their children as the most important thing in their lives, and some people can’t let go even when they’re about to leave this world. Those who are filial know how to treat their parents well, and parents give us life and the ability to live independently. Forgetting our parents is forgetting our roots.
No matter how rich the elderly are, if they’re left alone, they’ll be lonely and pitiful.
The elderly without children are also very lonely. Chinese people have always emphasized the importance of having many children and grandchildren, and that’s the most enjoyable life.
Although the cost of living is getting higher, and finding a job is getting harder, many people still hope to have their own children. This is because having children gives life a new beginning, and when we grow old, we’ll have someone to rely on and feel secure.
More importantly, having children gives us new emotions and new care, which is a special kind of love.
Companion
Last year during the Spring Festival, my grandfather suddenly fell ill. When he was in the hospital, he thought of my grandmother, and tears streamed down his face.
My grandmother passed away when she was 58, and she had a severe illness that couldn’t be cured despite visiting many doctors.
Grandma left us over ten years ago, but whenever Grandpa thought of her, his face would become extremely solemn.
When you grow old, your children will also grow up, and your parents might have left you. Even if your parents haven’t left, they’re getting older, and when they eventually leave this world, you might not be too sad. Because birth, old age, sickness, and death are the norms of life, especially for older people.
But if you lose your loved one, you’ll feel extremely lonely, and every night, you’ll sleep without a companion. When you’re sick, your children might not be by your side, and you’ll feel very sad.
There’s a saying online:
“Treat your companion well, because when you grow old, you’ll realize that only your companion will be by your side; treat your companion well, because when you’re old and helpless, only your companion will be there for you.”
In this world, there’s a kind of love that’s more intimate than friendship and different from family love. This love cannot be shared with others and will make people feel sad and heartbroken, sometimes even leading to depression. This is romantic love.
People of any age need love, and the elderly are no exception. The only difference is that the elderly rely more heavily on love. If they lose their companion, they’ll be extremely sad and might even lose hope in life.
When you grow old, you’ll realize that losing your companion and your children is a particularly sad thing.
The most painful thing in life is when the elderly send off the young, and on the other hand, if you lose your companion, you’ll also be trapped in loneliness.
In the world of the elderly, children are extremely important, but sometimes children are not by their side, and they have to rely on their companions.