Yang Jiang once said, “What’s the feeling of giving up someone you love deeply?”
Can the vows made during courtship represent forever? The answer is no, because promises are only temporary. Many people forget their vows after getting married, which is why some men change drastically after marriage.
When I met him, I was 28 years old, which is considered old for a woman in rural areas. So, we decided to get married within six months of dating.
At first, he was very good to me and knew how to make me happy. He also had a silver tongue, which quickly won over my parents. After marriage, our emotional life was also relatively smooth. I went to work, and he ran a factory. We lived a comfortable life.
He was eight years older than me, but despite the age difference, he always considered my feelings. At that time, I became the envy of everyone in the village, feeling like I had married a good man. I thought I would live a happy life with him.
However, his true intentions were eventually exposed. After marriage, we faced a demolition of our home, and we received a large sum of money. As an only child, my parents loved me dearly, and he began to curry favor with them to get half of the money to repay his debts.
He was a smooth talker, but he rarely considered our family’s well-being. I disagreed with giving him the money, and we had a huge fight. He even hit me, which made me see him in a new light. However, I was already pregnant, so I chose to tolerate him for the sake of the child.
But I realized that having a child didn’t change him. If I had the chance to choose again, I would not marry him.
A man’s words are deceitful, and this phrase is not wrong. After hearing her story, everyone should have a sense of reflection. This story also teaches us some lessons.
Not Many People Truly Care About You
Lin Huiyin once said, “If you truly like someone, you will always put them in your heart.”
In this life, ultimately, only you care about yourself. There are not many people who truly wish you well in this world. It’s not easy to find someone who loves you, and if you do, you should cherish them.
If we haven’t found someone who is willing to protect us in real life, we shouldn’t have high hopes when someone approaches us. We should prepare for the worst and not have too many disappointments.
The Man Who Invests in You Loves You the Most
Chen Guo said, “The one who makes you smile is worthy of your life.”
What kind of man loves you the most? Everyone will have different answers to this question. Some might say it’s the man who spends money on you, while others might say it’s the man who understands you. But I think that every man expresses love differently.
However, in terms of consumption, a man who buys you clothes is more reliable than one who only takes you out to eat. Eating is a shared expense, but buying clothes is a personal investment. Only a man who truly loves you will think of you constantly.
So, this is the detail of love. A man’s words of love are useless; we should look at his actions.
Learn to Rely on Yourself
Hard work can only lead to passing grades, but striving for excellence requires more effort. This phrase is especially important for women, as the world will not pamper you just because you’re a girl.
Those women who can truly live happily in real life are diligent and know the importance of being down-to-earth. They don’t disappoint others, nor do they disappoint themselves.
This world is cruel, and as you grow older, you’ll realize that life doesn’t care about your setbacks or loneliness. People only look at the process, not the results.
Growth means that one day you’ll be able to swallow all the bitterness, face those who have hurt you, and still smile. You’ll become the best version of yourself and not care about others. This is the most important thing.
What is true love? Everyone will have different answers to this question. But I think that true love can withstand the test of time. During courtship, there are sweet words and grand vows, but in the end, not many people can truly do it.
So, those who only use sweet words to deceive you don’t truly love you. They only love themselves. When you’re with someone like that, you should learn to cut your losses and not rely too much on them. Only when you find the right person can you live a happy and fulfilling life.