I used to work for an Australian boss whose daughter was a blonde beauty, and she held the position of a general manager in the company. Despite her looks and wealth, she didn’t have a boyfriend at 30.
In Australian culture, a good-looking, wealthy, 30-year-old blonde without a boyfriend is seen as having a problem.
The daughter’s issues stemmed from raising a 5-year-old girl left homeless due to her parents’ drug and alcohol addiction. She devoted a lot of time to caring for the child and didn’t plan to marry or have children.
Another problem was her preference for handsome, sexy men, which prevented her from having a stable, long-term relationship.
At 32, as her child grew older, she started to have more free time and decided she couldn’t go on like this.
She took various steps, including reading, browsing magazines, and seeking advice on finding a partner. Finally, she resorted to an ultimate method: she detailed the qualities she wanted in a partner, including age, height, weight, occupation, personality, car brand, interests, and life experiences, and read the list every night before sleeping.
She then attended parties, went on online dates, and actively searched for a partner. A year later, she found her ideal match, and their child is now 6 years old.
She told me, “He met all my requirements. The only thing I forgot to include was that he shouldn’t snore, but he does.”
In Australia, there’s no age discrimination in relationships and marriage.
In developing countries, the biggest discrimination is age discrimination. The media even suggests that people born in the 1990s are now middle-aged, while those born in the 1970s are considered elderly.
For many girls, being over 28 and still single and unmarried is a cause of anxiety for them and their families.
Here’s an analysis of how the boss’s daughter found her ideal partner at 31.
- Firstly, you must understand yourself and what you’re like. What do you look like? What’s your body like? What’s your income like? What’s your family background like? Have a clear understanding.
Set a baseline for your potential partner, such as being handsome, having a stable job, being sporty, and being loyal. Stick to this baseline.
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Educate yourself beforehand by reading books, magazines, or public WeChat accounts to understand how to attract the person you want. Prepare yourself mentally and design your image accordingly. This preparation is essential.
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Have a positive attitude. Be determined to find a boyfriend or get married. Don’t dwell on self-pitying inner dialogues about why you can’t find a boyfriend or how your conditions are better than Liu Sanjie’s, who’s already married. Such self-pity won’t help you find a partner.
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List the qualities of your ideal partner in great detail. The more detailed, the faster you’ll find them.
It’s important to note that I once asked her if she listed her partner’s income, assets, or properties. She said she didn’t. She only listed her requirements for the person.
Recommendations:
- List the standards you have for your future partner based on your actual conditions. In today’s China, only people with similar values have a chance for a long-term relationship. Love based solely on financial status is quick to come and go.
Birds of a feather flock together. People with similar values won’t have much disparity in their financial status and values.
For instance, although the boss’s daughter didn’t list her partner’s economic condition, her ideal match was a wealthy, handsome, financial professional in Sydney. If you set out with the intention of finding someone rich, you’ll either be with someone who’s after your looks and body, or you’ll be the one taking advantage of someone else.
- Understand the risks involved in finding a boyfriend. He might be a married man lying about being single, or he might be seeing someone else while with you, or he might be gay and using you as a cover. Although there are risks, they shouldn’t hinder your search for an ideal partner. There’s a saying: There are plenty of fish in the sea.
- Take active steps to find a partner, don’t wait for one to come to you.
Tell your friends and colleagues that you’re looking for a boyfriend and ask them to keep an eye out for you. There are many dating websites now. Register on these sites and engage in conversations.
Attend various parties and gatherings, especially those related to your interests, such as golf or tennis clubs. The type of partner you’ll find in a basketball or badminton club will differ.