Spent 7 years with my partner, and today, I want to share some insights on managing relationships. We should all know that the strengths and weaknesses of both individuals determine whether they can be together and how far they can go.
First, let’s examine our own strengths and weaknesses and understand where our strengths lie when we are together. Don’t take things for granted. Some people tend to exhaust their partner’s love, always expecting everything to be a given in a relationship. This constant demand slowly erodes the relationship, eventually reducing it to nothing.
Maintaining a long-lasting relationship isn’t difficult. Being true to oneself is the key to long-lasting love.
First: The Best Way to Sustain a Long-lasting Relationship is to Not Focus Too Much on Love.
Don’t be overly passionate when entering a relationship. To make it last, maintain 20% passion and 80% rationality. Rationality means taking some things for granted. For instance, you may treat your partner in a way you think is loving, but it may not be what they want.
The principle is simple: the more clingy you are, the more aloof your partner becomes when apart.
- “Being clingy when together enhances the quality of the relationship.”
When together, fully involve your partner, creating a romantic atmosphere. This state is different from your usual routine; it’s about doing things together, like going on dates and watching movies.
This feeling is relaxing, like breaking free from the tension of work. For example, in “Ode to Joy,” the way Qu Xiaoxiao and Zhao Qiping engage easily captivates the man. This charm is an important part of a woman’s allure; it gives the man a feeling he doesn’t get from others, especially a feeling of ease and relaxation.
This charm equation: Charm = Temptation + Childishness
- “Don’t be overly sentimental when apart.”
When apart, focus 100% on your work and personal life. The more outstanding you become, the better your life. You must allow yourself to grow and focus on your career.
Stop saying things like “Don’t work, be with me,” which is a girl’s way of loving. It’s selfish and irresponsible. True love means success in both love and career.
Second: Never Love Against Human Nature.
Never test human nature because even the noblest person has a dark side. “Close enough is good enough.” Don’t nitpick. Some people test their boyfriends with fake accounts or ask them strange questions. Some even sneak a look at their boyfriend’s phone.
If you trust your partner, trust them completely. Don’t constantly doubt them; it only makes you feel more insecure.
Challenging human nature is dangerous. Sometimes, following someone’s heart in love will bring more.
Stop being anxious and suspicious. Always loving against human nature will only make you unhappy.
If jealousy and possessiveness are strong, two methods can help:
- Firmly believe “I am worthy of love.”
Believe in the way he loved you at the beginning. Self-assurance will give you confidence in love and reduce anxiety.
- Ask yourself, “Has he really betrayed me?”
Don’t believe some random inspirational quote and think your boyfriend is a certain way. Don’t believe in baseless rumors. Imagining bad things will only make you more sensitive.
Third: You Will Attract the Love You Deserve.
The kind of person you are will attract similar people. If your value isn’t high enough, don’t expect to find a handsome man or a beautiful woman. Focus 80% of your energy on your personal growth. The more charming and radiant you become, the more love you’ll receive.
It may sound selfish, but long-term relationships depend not only on affection but also on mutual attraction, trust, and respect. That’s how relationships last.
The secret to keeping a relationship fresh is to continuously infuse it with love.
These are some lessons learned, but in relationships, you also need to create novelty and be an interesting and open individual. Naturally, this will release a lot of charm.
In general, the kind of person you are will attract the kind of relationship you have.
If you’re sensitive, you may make your relationship fragile.
If you lack security, you may be anxious.
If you lack a career, you may feel inferior.
If you’re emotional, you may argue easily.
In love, whether single or not, you should fully unleash your charm and improve yourself. If you bloom like a butterfly, you’ll eventually attract someone you like, and someone who likes you.