Understanding a Man’s Love: Analyzing His Behavior After Arguments
How Much a Man Loves You Depends on How He Treats You After a Fight
On the weekend, I made plans with my friend to go shopping. The mall was newly opened and quite far from the city. We would have to take three buses if we opted for public transportation. My friend’s husband offered to drive us there.
It was a new car from my friend’s family, and her husband was a new driver who had just obtained his license. He was a bit inexperienced on the road. My friend didn’t know how to drive, but she kept criticizing her husband from the passenger seat, complaining about his abrupt braking and following distance.
Being a novice driver, he was already nervous, and having someone constantly directing him made it even more chaotic. Unable to bear it, my friend’s husband finally snapped at her, “Shut up! Who’s driving, me or you?” This set my friend off, and she completely ignored my presence, starting a heated argument with her husband.
As the argument escalated, I tried to change the subject several times, but to no avail. During a fight, people tend to say harsh things, and eventually, they both threatened to part ways. After that, they fell silent, and the car was filled with an air of desolation.
Despite his grim expression, my friend’s husband still insisted on dropping us off at the mall. Once we got out of the car, he drove off in a huff. Clearly still upset, my friend vented her anger about her husband to me. I couldn’t help but advise her, “We came out for a fun shopping trip, why get mad over this?”
We shopped, had a big meal, and watched a movie. By then, my friend had put the argument with her husband behind her. When we left the mall in the afternoon, a car silently pulled up beside us, and to our surprise, it was my friend’s husband.
At this point, my friend was all smiles. She took my hand and got into the car, chatting and laughing as if there had been no argument in the morning. None of the unpleasantness was brought up again.
Later, I learned that after their argument, my friend’s husband was still upset. He left in the car, thinking that we would take a long time to finish shopping, and it would be difficult to find a taxi in that remote area, especially during rush hour. Despite his anger, he couldn’t bear to leave us stranded and returned to wait for us outside the mall for four hours.
A man who, despite having an argument with you, still worries about you and is afraid of inconveniencing you, clearly holds you dearly in his heart and is unwilling to let you suffer even a little bit.
Late last night, my friend came to my house, and it was evident that she had another argument with her husband.
My friend is a tough woman who is soft-hearted inside. She can’t stand being wronged, and a small matter would easily trigger an argument with her husband. As soon as she entered, she started complaining to me about trivial family matters. Her mother-in-law had been staying at their house for the past few days, and my friend had been venting about the things she couldn’t stand about her mother-in-law, while her husband took her mother’s side.
“Your mother-in-law is only staying for a few days. Can’t you just bear with it? Coming out alone in the middle of the night will only make things worse,” I couldn’t help but advise her, but she didn’t listen and firmly said, “I don’t care, I’m not going back. Let them be alone.”
The next morning, she told me that she planned to stay at my place for a while and asked me not to mind. I assured her that she could stay for as long as she needed.
When I returned home from work, thinking my friend was still at my place, I purposely went to the supermarket and bought a lot of food. To my surprise, she wasn’t there when I got back. I called her, and I could hear the sound of the cooker hood in the background. She told me she was busy cooking and would talk later.
It turned out that she had already returned home and was busy cooking for her mother-in-law and husband. Later, she told me that she had initially planned to stay at my place for a few days, but when she went back in the evening to get some clothes, she overheard her husband talking to her mother-in-law.
Her mother-in-law said to her husband, “Your wife is so unreasonable, how can she just leave the house in the middle of the night?” But her husband responded, “She just has a quick temper. Normally, she takes good care of the house and respects you. Please don’t say such things about her. If I hadn’t been thinking that you would be alone at home, I would have gone to find her last night.”
Hearing her husband’s words, my friend immediately changed her mind about leaving home and went back, deeply touched. She went straight to the kitchen to prepare dinner.
A man who, despite arguing and being angry with you, vigorously defends you in front of others and is unwilling to hear anyone speak ill of you, how could he not truly love you?
No couple goes without arguments. The key to how much a man loves you lies in how he treats you after an argument.
A man who, after an argument, still worries about you, considers your feelings, and defends you at every turn, truly loves you. On the other hand, a man who doesn’t love you much would probably just give you the cold shoulder after an argument and wait for you to apologize.
In reality, arguments are not scary, but it’s crucial how you handle things after the argument. If there is no love in the heart, even without arguments, it doesn’t guarantee a happy life. But if there is deep love, no matter how many arguments there are, you can still be caring and continue to love each other until old age.