Marriage is a significant bond that brings meaning to life, like a guiding North Star in the dark night. However, just as love blooms, it can also fade away.
Women handle emotions delicately, often saying “let’s divorce” out of anger or sadness without truly meaning it. But when a man decides on divorce, he usually means it.
Colleague Sarah seemed lost and worn out recently. She was always lively at work but now looked drained. Over lunch, she tearfully confided, “My husband finds life meaningless and wants a divorce.”
I was shocked. Sarah and her husband were inseparable in college, studying together, eating together, and traveling together. It seemed like a fairytale romance. Seeing her so distraught, I offered her some advice to lift her spirits.
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Don’t cry or play the victim. Many women, like Sarah, juggle work and household chores. Their world shatters with divorce, but playing the victim only pushes men away.
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Don’t grovel, apologize, or beg for reconciliation. Marriage issues are never one-sided. Begging only diminishes your self-worth in his eyes.
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Communicate with your children. Kids need a loving environment more than a complete family. Shield them from parental conflicts.
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Stay financially independent. Money matters often tangle with emotions. Independence gives you confidence.
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Improve yourself. Men are drawn to novelty. Focus on self-care, learn new things, travel, make new friends, and enrich your life.
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Secure post-marital assets. Some women fight for child custody but overlook post-marital assets. Claim what is rightfully yours for your child’s welfare.
Marriage is crucial, but if it doesn’t nurture and cherish you, it’s better to walk away. Don’t create a scene or doubt yourself. Focus on your happiness, for it awaits you at the next turn.