What are your expectations about love?
Everyone has their own thoughts on this question, but I think we all hope to find someone who loves us.
But love isn’t always as easy as we imagine. For everyone, it’s a mix of sweet, sour, bitter, and spicy.
David is a down-to-earth guy. He’s 25 years old and still hasn’t found the right person. His parents are anxious and his friends and family have been setting him up on blind dates. But he’s turned down most of them.
Many people think David is too shy and not suitable for dating. He’s worried about relationships too. His lack of initiative has cost him a lot of opportunities.
Then he met Mary online. She’s lively, cheerful, and outgoing. Plus, she’s a good talker. David was smitten.
They soon started dating. Things were going well at first. David was generous with Mary and showered her with gifts. But the longer they were together, the greedier Mary became. She wanted more expensive gifts.
Mary thought David was a clueless fool. She accepted everything he bought her, even pawning the more valuable items. David didn’t mind. He just wanted her to be happy. But his tolerance made Mary even worse.
While she was dating David, she was also seeing another guy. She thought she was getting away with it. But one day, David sent Mary a text that said, “If you’re not serious, don’t flirt with me.”
It turned out David had known about Mary’s infidelity for a while but didn’t say anything. Then he demanded that Mary return all the gifts and sued her.
Everyone makes mistakes in love. If you want to find happiness, you need to understand these things:
No one will tolerate your bad temper unconditionally:
At the beginning of a relationship, you might be madly in love. But after a while, not many people will still treat you the same way. Relationships need mutual understanding.
No one will tolerate your bad temper unconditionally.
So when it comes to love, be rational. Don’t get into unnecessary arguments or conflicts over small issues.
There’s only zero cheating or countless cheating:
When someone says they love you, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true. If someone truly loves you, they’ll give you a sense of security.
Once someone cheats on you, they’ll probably cheat again and again. Don’t lower your standards. Only by sticking to your principles can you avoid getting hurt.
Arguments aren’t about who’s right or wrong:
They’re not about winning or losing. Conflicts are unavoidable when two people are together. But the point of an argument isn’t to win. There’s no winning or losing in love. There’s no right or wrong. You just need to learn how to communicate effectively to make your relationship last.
If you can’t understand each other and only blame each other, your relationship will get worse.
Liking someone is about changing them, loving someone is about changing yourself:
What’s the difference between liking and loving? Everyone has their own answer. But I think when you truly love someone, you’re willing to change for them. They’re also willing to change for you. True love is a two-way street, not a one-way street.
Being too dependent on someone won’t end well:
In love, no one can rely on anyone else. When you truly like someone, don’t expect them to save you. It’s not a good thing to be too dependent on someone. Love needs independence.
If you want your relationship to last, give each other space and time. Constantly relying on someone will only push them further away.
Shared values are important:
Compatibility is key. If you don’t have shared interests and can’t even sit down and have a calm conversation, your relationship will inevitably face problems. Love needs effort from both sides. Shared values are also important.
At first, you might think everything is perfect. But once you face the realities of life, not many couples will stay together. So finding someone who understands and accepts you is essential.
Love needs sincerity. When two people are together, they need to compromise and understand each other. If you treat love like a game, you won’t be happy. Everyone deserves to be treated honestly. If you’re not planning on spending your life with someone, don’t flirt with them.