Stay calm, it’s good for your health too
During the recent Chinese New Year celebrations, many people stayed indoors due to the pandemic. I heard neighbors arguing every day at home.
The man next door would scold his wife daily, criticizing her cleaning and laundry skills without lifting a finger to help. When he found fault, he lashed out at her.
While it’s not right to interfere in others’ domestic affairs, hearing this man berate his wife daily left us speechless.
Eventually, he developed chronic bronchitis. Neighbors joked, “He’s always bossing his wife around, now he’s got a ‘wife-bossing’ illness.”
After further medical examination, it turned out he had heart disease, not bronchitis.
Being gentle with others is being gentle with yourself too.
This man went to the hospital, and when he returned, peace was restored in their relationship. No more arguments were heard.
As a man, you must learn to control your temper. Being angry not only harms others but also yourself.
Many believe being dominant at home is good, but getting angry harms your health.
If you want a peaceful life, maintain a good temper. Being with someone who has a good temper is crucial for a healthy life for both.
Choosing a partner with a good temper is more important than just being loved.
Men should be responsible
Men must take responsibility. If a man only talks but never acts, he not only stresses his partner but fails in everything.
Blaming everything on your wife and doing nothing yourself leads to constant arguments and an unhappy family.
Unhappy families easily lead to broken marriages, leaving men devastated. In most cases, women remarry, but men often struggle to find another partner.
Even if some men remarry, continuing with the same behavior leads to abandonment.
Loneliness in old age is sad. Depression can break a man.
Hence, one must learn to nurture their marriage, treat their wife well, and avoid hurting their partner with harsh words.
I once met a beggar who had mistreated his wife in the past. Despite being pitied, his wife left him due to constant quarrels. He never married again.
So cherish your wife while you have her. Loneliness in old age is meaningless and can lead to depression, affecting longevity.
Accommodating your wife is not about fear
A man who learns to keep quiet is actually accommodating his wife, not fearing her.
Many men have authority outside but listen to their wives at home. The more capable a man is, the more he cherishes and respects his wife. In contrast, less capable men who rely on others for money often mistreat their wives.
A wise man invests in his wife, while fools bully theirs, inviting ridicule.
Sometimes people try to goad men by claiming that being accommodating to their wives is a sign of fear. Smart men see through this and understand what makes a good wife and a good man.
Men must prioritize their wives, not shift all conflicts onto them. Your understanding and kindness will sustain a stable marriage.