Di Xinjing said:
“Every step of a person’s life from birth to death should be a direct transaction involving cash across the counter. If we are not ascending to heaven in this way, then heaven is not a place governed by political economy, and we have no business there.”
Throughout my life, from birth to death, money is always needed. Just like when a person is born and needs money for hospital delivery, to when they pass away at eighty or ninety years old and need money for burial.
People cannot live without dealing with money, which is why people view money as so important.
Money isn’t everything, but not having money is a big problem.
Many people intertwine money and love when dating. For example, during holidays, some men may not buy gifts for their partners, while others buy flowers or give red envelopes to their girlfriends or wives.
So when you don’t receive a gift from the other person, you may feel a bit unbalanced inside, leading to conflicts sometimes.
Some people think these are just superficial matters, believing that love should be kept in one’s heart.
But to be honest, the only reason why a man is unwilling to spend money on you is simply that he doesn’t love you.
Once when I was shopping, I saw many beautiful clothes that were high-end and expensive. I thought to myself: I must buy such a nice outfit for my mom.
So sometimes, when you really like someone, you always want to give them the best. Even if you don’t have money, you will try your best to earn money to provide a good life for them.
Therefore, men who are reluctant to spend money on you are often men who don’t love you.
A person who spends money on you may not necessarily love you
Samuel Butler said:
“A person who loves money very much will find it hard to love their children equally. These two are like fire and water, unable to coexist.”
A person who loves money can become very selfless in front of their children because their children are the most important. Therefore, they become selfless for them.
If a person loves money but also loves a woman, they can still share their money with her because they act out of love.
I have a good friend who isn’t very attractive but found a very kind boyfriend. Shortly after they got together, within three months, he bought her a house in Sanya.
Later, my friend wanted money from her boyfriend, so he sent her twenty thousand yuan for living expenses every month.
Even though they were in a long-distance relationship, they still loved each other this much.
After three years, they finally got married. Perhaps money impressed my friend, or maybe it was the sincerity of her partner that won her over. Their life is still very happy now.
A man who loves you is willing to give you all his money. We can’t measure a relationship solely by money, but if a man is willing to spend so much on you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he loves you, but having money is still good sometimes.
Perhaps some women just need money, so getting either money or love is enough for them.
A person unwilling to spend money on you definitely doesn’t love you
A man who is unwilling to spend money on you definitely doesn’t love you.
We can’t measure a man’s love for you by how much money he has or how much he spends on you.
Sometimes when dating someone, you may find that they are very stingy, even going Dutch when having a meal together.
Just like a journalist once told me:
A friend of a friend had a boyfriend with whom she always split the bill when eating out, even after having a child.
So sometimes, when a man doesn’t love you, he can be so miserly. A man who won’t spend money on you definitely doesn’t love you. If you end up having children together, you might even have to split everything, which is unimaginable.
Perhaps some people hope that their partner will change in the future, but habits are hard to change, and a person who doesn’t love you is unlikely to change.
So as a woman, it’s best to find a man who is willing to spend money on you. Even if he only has a dollar, if he’s willing to spend it on you, then he’s worth dating.
Some people, when they have no money, find a wife who doesn’t mind. But after many years, when they become wealthy, they leave and find a very attractive wife.
So a man who is reluctant to spend money on you, even if he becomes wealthy later, may not treat you well. It’s best to leave such a man early.
Women should find a man who loves them
Women must find a man who loves them. Being pampered by someone else is a happy thing.
An immature person likes to be with someone they love, giving everything for that person; a mature person tends to find someone who loves them, being pampered like a princess and still acting like a young girl in their forties or fifties.
Li Ao said:
“A successful husband is one whose wealth is inexhaustible to his wife; a successful wife is one who finds such a husband.”
We may not necessarily need to find a very wealthy person, but we should find someone willing to spend money on us.
We don’t need extravagant things, but our daily needs should be met.
Some women, after marriage, can’t afford to buy jewelry because their husbands don’t give them money, even though they could afford it. Some husbands think women are just wasting money.
Some women, after marriage, live worse than when they were at their parents’ house, where they could have whatever they wanted. But after marriage, they have nothing.
If a woman gets married to improve her life and elevate her material status, that might be wrong. Before getting married, a woman must consider that if her standard of living drops after marriage, then such a marriage is not worth it.
“Xi Bao” says:
“I want lots and lots of love. If there’s no love, then lots and lots of money. If neither, good health is also fine.”
If a woman can find true love in life, that’s great. But she must know that even if her man doesn’t have money, if he’s still willing to spend on her, that’s what matters.
If a woman can’t find true love in life, having money is also good. Marrying someone with good conditions is also a good choice.