Recently, my cousin’s wife said to him, “Little sister got divorced, let her stay with us!”
My cousin, who values independence and solitude, was not pleased. When he got married, despite not having much money, he chose to live separately from his parents in a modest house in the city.
Even though their house was new, my cousin preferred living with his wife rather than his parents. Throughout their marriage, they maintained this city lifestyle, reflecting my cousin’s values.
Upon hearing his wife’s suggestion to have his sister-in-law move in, my cousin felt unhappy and declined her request.
His wife expressed her dissatisfaction, feeling neglected and unloved after years of living a detached life in the city. She accused my cousin of being cold-hearted and selfish, prioritizing his desires over family bonds.
Their marriage ended in divorce, as my cousin’s attempts to reconcile were met with a resolute decision from his wife.
After the divorce, his ex-wife posted a photo online of their happy family enjoying hotpot together, captioned: “Endured for ten years, finally liberated.”
Seeing the photo, my cousin couldn’t hold back his tears. While their world seemed perfect, familial warmth could have made a significant difference.
Appreciating Only After Losing
As Annie Baby said, “I believe I love you, always and forever.”
Many only appreciate what they had after losing it, failing to cherish it when it was present.
Just like my cousin, who preferred living separately despite his wife’s desire for family warmth and companionship.
Men should consider women’s feelings and not always assume they are right. Sometimes, being too stubborn can lead to losing what truly matters.
In relationships, if someone repeatedly advises you to change but you refuse, thinking you will win by being rigid, you’ll likely end up regretting it.
Women’s Divorce: A Forced Choice
Women often divorce out of necessity, entering marriage with hopes of a lifelong commitment, only to leave in despair.
Amid hope and despair lies numerous disappointments. When disappointments accumulate, a woman may feel the marriage is meaningless, contemplating leaving a partner stuck in their old ways.
Women’s divorces are often a last resort, as no woman dreams of being a divorcee unless life becomes unbearable.
Regret Comes Too Late Sometimes
Apart from love, there are many other bonds in the world. Some men fail to understand this, prioritizing career and principles over emotional connections.
Men and women think differently; women are emotional, believing love is paramount, while men may focus on practical matters.
When a couple fails to understand each other’s perspectives, regrets may surface too late. It’s crucial to consider your partner’s viewpoint before it’s too late.
Men’s Tears, Unseen by Women
Men’s tears often go unnoticed by women. Men shed tears only when women leave, while women cry in the presence of men, seeking comfort from them.
Instead of crying after losing a woman, it’s better to cherish her before she’s gone. Men who cry after losing a woman regret their actions.
Men who manage their relationships wisely never let their partners cry. Crying is futile, especially for men, as it signifies weakness.
Just like my cousin, who stood by his principles and refused to let his wife’s sister stay. While upholding principles is crucial, one must also respect their partner’s boundaries.
Men should understand that every departure is a result of accumulated disappointments. If one fails to change despite repeated warnings, the other person will eventually leave.
Everyone has their limits, so it’s essential to maintain principles without crossing your partner’s boundaries.