There’s a lyric that goes like this: “Love is like a shooting star, I won’t struggle, just let it be.”
When facing love, we may feel powerless, especially when we can’t be with the ones we love. Our hearts may already be full of wounds, but in relationships, besides reluctance, we also need to learn to let go, because letting go leads to gaining.
Haruki Murakami once said: “Telling you I like you doesn’t mean we have to be together, I just hope that in your future hardships, you won’t lose heart, knowing that someone was once attracted by your charm, and will be again.” The wrong person will always be wrong, regardless of how much I love or give.
In relationships, the best ending is when two people who have gone through hardships still can’t be together but find their own happiness separately.
When we were young, we thought loving someone meant being together forever. But as we grew up, we realized that love is about fulfillment. Two people in love don’t necessarily have to be together, just like the saying goes: “Wishing you peace and success every year.”
Even if we deeply loved someone in our hearts but couldn’t be together in the end, we still hope they find true happiness.
Sometimes, missing someone means just that. Being incompatible means just that. Even if forced, it no longer holds any meaning.
I remember in college, I had a good friend who broke up with her boyfriend right after graduation. Their four-year relationship ended in nothing. When they broke up, everyone asked her, “Aren’t you regretful? Four years of love, four years of youth, all gone just like that.”
She smiled and said, “I’m grateful for his presence in my life and for his care over these four years. But not all love needs to end up together. Sometimes, parting ways is also a good choice.”
We knew how important those four years were to her, and even though she pretended to be fine after the breakup, deep down, she was undoubtedly reluctant. We watched them go through their college years together.
We understood the significance of their relationship, but for some, like she said, being together is not a must. Fulfilling each other may be another form of love.
After graduation, they went to different cities but stayed in touch. Every time they came back home, our group of friends would gather. Last year, they both started new relationships, but when they sat together, they still laughed and chatted like before.
To outsiders, their relationship might seem regretful, but for them, finding happiness separately might be the best ending.
Recently, we received the news of the man getting married. We all sent our blessings in the group chat and attended his wedding. During the celebration, my friend and he raised their glasses to each other.
Is there really such a thing as an unbreakable attachment in this world? I don’t think so. Often, our inability to let go is not about the other person but about our reluctance to release our past efforts. The fundamental reason we can’t let go of certain feelings is that we refuse to move on.
Love doesn’t always mean being together. Seeing the other person happy can also bring us joy. Some say that ex-lovers can’t be friends, but I believe whether you can be friends depends on your own perspective and attitude.
In this world, no one can’t live without another, and there’s no one you must be with. Cherish the time together, and when it’s time to part ways, don’t be sad. Saying goodbye with a smile is the best ending.