When it comes to love, men and women exhibit vastly different behaviors.
Men’s emotions can change quickly, whereas women’s emotions take time to develop but are more intense. Some women become so invested in a man that they put him at the center of their lives, loving him to the point of losing themselves.
Everything they do revolves around the man. However, love doesn’t always reciprocate with equal intensity. In fact, the more you love a man, the more he might take you for granted and even hurt you.
Because he knows you can’t leave him, he won’t cherish you. When you love a man more than you love yourself, you’ve already lost.
The best love is when both parties prioritize each other, with equal effort from both sides. When women overthink these three things, men are less likely to love them.
Overthinking His Love
Eason Chan once sang, “What you can’t get is always disturbing, and being favored is terrifying.”
Overdoing it can be painful. When you love someone too intensely, you often hope they’ll respond with equal affection.
However, emotions require a sense of feeling. It’s not about making someone say they love you; it’s about genuinely feeling it. The more you focus on the gains and losses of love, the more the other person will distance themselves from you.
In the TV series “The Legend of Zhen Huan,” the empress deeply loved the emperor, but he remained indifferent. She tried everything to win his heart, but he only needed one sentence to dismiss her.
When the emperor faced danger, she risked her life to protect him, but he sent all his guards to protect Wei Zhen Luo instead.
The empress’s love was a complete failure. She was too focused on the emperor’s love and forgot that many women in the palace were vying for his attention.
On the other hand, Wei Zhen Luo lived a carefree life. She told the empress, “Why do you need to make him know you love him?”
Wei Zhen Luo loved Fu Heng, but he was forced to marry her. When she realized they had no future, she cut off her emotional ties.
The emperor loved her, but she didn’t rely on his favor. Instead, she lived her life freely. She didn’t revolve around the emperor, and when he was busy, she had her own things to do.
When the emperor asked if she loved him, she didn’t answer directly. Instead, she said she’d use her life to respond.
Wei Zhen Luo understood that, among the many women in the palace, she wasn’t exceptional in terms of beauty or talent. Instead of competing for favor, she chose to be her authentic self, which ultimately captured the emperor’s heart.
Overthinking Romantic Gestures
It’s said that life needs rituals to make emotions more solemn. However, some men are not naturally romantic, and that doesn’t mean they don’t love their partners.
People are different, and some excel at sweet talk, sending flowers and gifts, and catering to women’s preferences. Others prefer a more laid-back approach, and that’s okay too.
What’s most important is the sincerity of the other person’s heart, not the material gifts. While receiving gifts is delightful, what matters more is the sense of security and protection the other person provides.
However, some women are dissatisfied with their partner’s simple love and make demands. If they don’t get what they want, they become angry and create conflicts.
Love is not a one-size-fits-all situation. Every couple has different needs and expressions of love.
While it’s lovely to have a man who can create romantic moments, it’s more valuable to have someone who can share a peaceful life with you, like a warm and comforting bowl of noodles.
Don’t overthink the form of love; appreciate the care and protection he shows you in his actions.
Overthinking His Accompaniment
Some women are independent and fearless before falling in love, but once they’re in a relationship, they undergo a drastic transformation.
They used to do everything alone, but now they want their partner to accompany them everywhere. If the man doesn’t respond immediately, they’ll constantly ask why.
Each person is an individual, and love is only a part of life. Overemphasizing togetherness can create resentment in relationships.
Men’s love is different from women’s; they don’t make love their entire life. If a man is stuck to a woman 24/7, how can he focus on his career and plan for the future?
Even passionate lovers understand the importance of distance in relationships.
A woman who has love can show vulnerability in front of her man, but if she relies too heavily on him, it can hinder the development of their emotions.
Men appreciate women who are independent and can take care of themselves. If a woman needs her partner’s opinion on everything, even the best love will eventually feel exhausting.
Smart women understand that maintaining their independence while not being overly strong is key to making men love them more.
Love is a beautiful thing, and the goal of two people coming together is to become better versions of themselves.
Some excellent women become “love fools” and lose themselves in the process. The result is that they become weak in love and, with time, their emotions become more humble.
Love between two people is not about gaining sympathy or pity. Only when both partners stand on equal ground can they go further together.
Don’t sacrifice yourself for love; it will only lead to a dull and unremarkable life.
So, no matter what, women should never make love their entire life. Love is a bonus that makes life better, and that’s the best kind of love.
If love makes you wither away, then it’s not worth it, and he’s not the right person for you.