Body Knows Best: Understanding Your Feelings Towards Someone
Like it or not, the body knows the answer
When it comes to whether we like something or not, you’d think it would be easy to figure out, right?
But in real life, there are always times when we can easily get confused.
For example, when someone is pursuing us eagerly and we start to think they’re not too bad, we often get mixed up and become unsure of our feelings.
It’s easy to make the wrong decisions when we can’t sort out our feelings, and by the time we realize the truth, it’s often too late.
Whether it’s our feelings for someone or someone’s feelings for us, being confused about liking someone is not good. It can mess up the present and affect the future.
So, no matter when, it’s very important to understand our feelings.
It might seem difficult, but it’s actually simple. Whether we like something or not, words might lie and the heart might be uncertain, but the body never lies.
Eager to get close but restrained means you like them.
In interactions with the opposite sex, there are times when we unconsciously want to get closer to a specific person, wanting to hold hands, hug, or even kiss.
We have that desire, but at the same time, we’re very cautious and afraid of offending the other person. We are careful about our behavior, afraid of disappointing or repelling them.
When we have this heartfelt desire and care for someone, it’s clear that we like that person.
Real liking is like this—wanting to get close but being cautious. Accidentally touching them makes us feel elated, even a bit electrified.
Not everyone gives us that feeling. Only when someone has rooted themselves in our hearts, both emotionally and physically, do our feelings become special and instinctive.
That feeling is instinctive, free from any calculations, and always expresses our true emotions.
Strong rejection of physical contact is actually not love.
There are times when we meet someone, consider them a good choice, and want to give them a chance. But when they try to get closer, even accidentally, we feel uncomfortable.
We might not like it, not want that kind of contact, maybe even feel repulsed and just want them to stay away.
We might try to choose them rationally, but our bodies refuse to accept them.
When they try to get close, even before our rational thoughts, our bodies have already chosen to move away.
At that moment, we realize that it’s not shyness or reserve, but a genuine dislike, unable to imagine being intimate with them.
If our bodies reject someone, we don’t need to think anymore. It’s difficult to have any kind of relationship with that person. Even if we force it, we won’t be happy and will always feel strained.
Whether we like someone and whether there’s a possibility with them, we need to ask our hearts and our bodies.
If our bodies don’t want to get close, there won’t be any desire, let alone living together, sharing a bed, or having an intimate relationship, let alone spending a lifetime together.
Only if our bodies are willing to accept someone’s closeness, everything that follows will have meaning.
When looking for a partner, we should consider all aspects of the person, their character, and temperament, but whether we like them is equally important.
We need someone we are relatively satisfied with and also relatively like, not just someone with satisfactory conditions.
Over the years, we don’t need to overestimate ourselves. It’s difficult to be with someone we don’t like, no matter how good they are.
Only when we like someone will we be willing, and the other person will be too.