Cai Kangyong once said, “Being overly enthusiastic is not a way to maintain good relationships. It’s best to be a bit aloof and maintain a certain distance from others.”
The Bobo Law states that after experiencing intense stimulation, the subsequent stimulation becomes insignificant. In terms of psychological perception, the first big stimulation can dilute the impact of the second small stimulation.
This principle applies to love as well. If you give too much at once, over time, you will lose the novelty to the other person. True love lies in a steady flow. Only when you understand this, will your life be exceptionally happy.
As a woman, only by understanding these points in love can you reap its rewards.
Don’t Compromise Yourself for Love
My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We fell in love freely and soon had children after marriage, bringing more happiness to our family. I chose to give up my career to be a full-time mom for the family’s sake.
Over the years, I made many sacrifices and changes for the family’s happiness and harmony. I used to be financially independent, but now, due to family constraints, I have to rely on him for a living.
I thought my sacrifices would be understood and appreciated by my husband. However, over the years of marriage, his complaints grew. We argued repeatedly, but for the sake of the family, I had to compromise. Yet, I have not been happy in this marriage for many years. I feel it’s a torment.
In reality, if a woman constantly sacrifices herself for love, she will end up deeply wounded. Never compromise or sacrifice yourself for love. If someone truly loves you, they wouldn’t hurt you. When a man chooses to hurt you, it means he doesn’t love you at all.
Choosing the Right Person is Crucial
My husband and I have been married for three years. Initially, our relationship faced opposition from family, but out of love, I chose to marry him against all odds. We had a simple marriage registration without any grand celebration.
After marriage, I expected us to be happy, but by the third year, our relationship became dull, and all his promises to me were forgotten.
With the responsibilities of children, I dared not mention divorce easily.
In these years of marriage, I felt more like I was tolerating rather than living. I had no expectations for this marriage anymore.
In reality, many women tend to be attracted to the flame like moths in love. But remember, only by marrying the right person can you find happiness. Not everyone is worth trusting. Only when you love the right person, your efforts will be meaningful.
Love Needs Testing
Yanyan has been dating her boyfriend for 5 years. They met through friends and had a good first impression of each other. Hence, they started a relationship.
After 5 years, her boyfriend wanted to get married, but Yanyan felt there were many conflicts between them and didn’t want to rush into marriage.
After discussing with her boyfriend, they postponed the wedding and agreed to marry at 25, which he accepted.
In the following years, their relationship remained stable. Perhaps due to reaching a certain bottleneck, subtle changes occurred between them.
In the 7th year of their relationship, the freshness faded, and Yanyan’s boyfriend cheated, leading to the end of their relationship.
Listening to their story, many may find Yanyan’s actions extreme. However, relationships need to endure the tests of reality. If you choose someone impulsively, problems will arise eventually.
True love needs testing. Only when a man withstands the test of time, his love for you will be sincere.
In the realm of relationships, love that comes quickly will also leave quickly. True love lies in a steady flow. Relationships need to endure tests. If you give too much for a man, his feelings for you will fade over time.
True love lies in a steady flow. Only when you understand this, will your love last longer. If you don’t know how to love, and pour everything out in a short time, your relationship will end quickly. Be a wise woman to gain more happiness.