Some people say:
“Prevent fires, prevent from close friends.”
Sometimes, the closest girlfriends around you can also be dangerous individuals. A small number of them might even try to steal your husband.
When someone feels wronged at home, they tend to talk about it to others, who may then offer advice. However, it’s essential to realize that not everyone advising you to divorce has your best interests at heart; they may have ulterior motives.
Divorce Is Not as Simple as You Think
Divorce is not as straightforward as you might imagine because marriage isn’t just about two people; it involves two families.
“Many people think you are suffering in this marriage, but they don’t realize that leaving this marriage could bring even more suffering.”
Divorce is a complicated matter. When going through a divorce, one must consider the children, the family, and their parents. So, when someone is advising you, they should not blindly suggest divorce but should carefully consider and find solutions together with you.
However, if someone advises you to divorce without understanding your family situation or considering your perspective, saying, “You should get a divorce,” they are not being responsible towards you. Listen to their words, but do not act on them; otherwise, you will regret it.
It’s crucial to remember that family is paramount. Do not let outsiders’ words harm your family or ruin your marriage. Some people simply cannot stand to see others happy and may even feel jealous, leading them to find excuses to cause trouble in your relationship.
Many People Advocate Reconciliation, Not Separation
Marriage is not like romantic relationships, which can end at any moment. Divorce is not that easy because it involves many complex factors.
For instance, my brother offended my sister-in-law three years ago, and she wanted a divorce because of it. When she went back to her parents’ home, a neighbor said to her, “I also wanted you to get a divorce, but seeing how young and adorable your child is softened my heart.”
It was because of these words that my sister-in-law decided not to divorce my brother.
A kind-hearted person would never advise someone to divorce, especially when children are involved. Even if a couple does not have children, they still have parents. Divorce would undoubtedly cause significant harm to both the children and parents, so many people cannot bear to witness such a situation.
Anyone who disregards your family’s well-being and insists on divorce definitely has ulterior motives. A genuinely kind person would not act in such a manner. Every family has its challenges, but one should never jump to the conclusion of divorce.
I recall a friend from college who advised me to break up with my boyfriend. Initially, I thought it was for my benefit, but later realized that the friend wanted to be with my boyfriend.
It’s hard to imagine that someone close to you would harm you for their own gain, but such individuals do exist. In matters of love, there are always people trying to cause trouble.
Have Your Own Opinion
It’s crucial to have your own opinion in life, whether you are a man or a woman. Only by having your own opinion can you be a true individual.
If you only listen to others and do not have your own views, your life will be chaotic. Some men tend to listen to their mothers a lot, which is why they are often called “mommy’s boys,” and their marriages may not be happy.
Their marriages suffer because they heed their mothers’ words, leading to conflicts with their wives and ultimately damaging the marriage.
Therefore, it’s essential for individuals in a marriage to have their own opinions. Only with independent thinking can you effectively manage your marriage.
Sometimes, it’s best not to listen to your parents or others but to have your own opinion. This way, you can be fair to your partner.
If you let others manipulate you and do not have your own opinions, you will end up in a situation where you cannot protect your partner or your marriage.
Don’t just listen to what others say; sometimes, it’s crucial to listen to your partner. Many people are more inclined to believe outsiders rather than their partners, but this approach is not advisable.
Often, when someone advises you to divorce your partner, you might believe them and think your partner is at fault.
Think about it; you spend every day with your partner. Don’t you understand them well enough? If you know your partner, why let others judge them?
Many people have ruined their marriages by listening to others. Lack of personal opinions can lead to a chaotic life. I hope you are not one of those people.
When faced with people advising you to divorce, have your own opinions. Some may have ulterior motives.
Remember, once you are married, do not easily consider divorce. It shows irresponsibility.
Some regret divorcing their partners after listening to others. Once you let go, it might be challenging to pull back. Therefore, think carefully before getting a divorce.