One sentence caught my eye: Making a grand exit is just a test, true departure happens without a farewell.
People who loudly declare they’re leaving often end up picking up the shattered glass pieces by themselves in the end.
On the other hand, those who truly want to leave simply choose a sunny afternoon, put on their usual coat, walk out the door, and never return.
The same goes for relationships. Those who cannot be held onto, whose hearts cannot be won back, eventually, we have to let go.
A friend once shared her story with us. Here’s what she wrote:
I was with him for 5 years, we rarely argued. Even when we did, I was always willing to compromise because I loved him so much, I forgot about myself in the end. We met in college, where we were inseparable. Back then, I thought he was the man who loved me the most in the world.
After graduation, to work in the same city as him, I left my parents behind and followed him to a distant place. His family wasn’t well off, but I didn’t see it as a reason to separate because he promised me a better life. So, I worked hard alongside him.
But after graduation, he changed. I remember one time I came home late from work and couldn’t find him. When I called, I found out he was out with friends playing games. It was the first time I felt empty inside, but I didn’t blame him. Boys need a reason to relax, right?
Later, he got worse. He stayed home every day, never went out. Once, when I had severe period cramps, sweating in pain, he was still in his room playing games. In the end, I had to ask him to buy me painkillers, and all I got was, “Can’t you see I’m playing? Don’t bother me, you’re not that fragile.”
After that incident, I don’t remember how many times I cried behind his back. Eventually, I had to go to the pharmacy alone with my aching body. Since then, I felt like I could do everything on my own, and I lost all hope in him.
I remember one night walking home alone, trying to call him multiple times but getting a busy tone. When I got back, I found out he was already asleep. That’s when I realized I wasn’t that important to him anymore.
I initiated the breakup. When we broke up, he asked me, “Wasn’t everything fine before? Why this sudden change?”
I didn’t explain because I felt everything would just sound feeble and pale at that moment.
What I want to say is, love and disappointment accumulate bit by bit. I hope all girls understand that when a man doesn’t love you enough, letting go is the right choice. Girls only have a few years of youth, don’t easily grow up with a boy.
I also hope all boys cherish the girl who is willing to be by your side and not let her get hurt.
Love is said to be more painful than sweet. When facing love, I hope everyone can cherish, understand, and love each other, not letting your loved one or someone who loves you get hurt.
When a person gathers enough disappointment, they will leave quietly. The scariest part of love is: when you think I’m compromising, I’m actually saying goodbye.
Breaking up is not a grand finale with fireworks. It’s when all the fireworks have faded, leaving endless emptiness and indifference.
In love, the final parting is not sudden. If it weren’t for accumulating disappointment, who would want to leave someone they once deeply loved?
Politeness turns into distance, mischief turns into dependence. We all understand this. When someone clings to you, laughing freely in front of you, it signifies trust and dependence. But if someone suddenly becomes polite, it means they are slowly distancing themselves from you.
Saying “breakup” to someone you once deeply loved requires immense courage. Only the person experiencing it can understand the heart-wrenching pain.
Love is easy, marriage is hard, so cherish it.
Whether in love or marriage, it’s not easy because love requires courage and marriage demands responsibility. Many people stay committed from love to marriage, while some give up halfway.
In a relationship, it’s not the arguments but the disappointment that’s the scariest because arguments show the hope for change, the hope the other person still holds for you. But disappointment is different.
Disappointment comes silently, without shared joys, emotional expectations. No arguments, no fuss, no competition. While on the surface, everything seems calm, in reality, the disappointment has reached its peak.
You may think they are compromising with you, but in fact, they are bidding you farewell. So, in relationships, cherish each other, avoid hurting one another, because missing someone who truly loved you will leave you with nothing in the end.