After a breakup, it’s not necessary to cut off contact. Psychologically, the more you force yourself not to do something, the more it sticks in your mind. By constantly reminding yourself not to do it, you’re actually reinforcing the thought. The more you push yourself, the more it backfires.
On the flip side, just because you broke up doesn’t mean you can’t stay in touch. Arguments and breakups are common among couples, but that doesn’t mean all feelings between you two vanish just because you mentioned breaking up.
Especially if you’re not ready, don’t force yourself to leave someone you deeply care about by cutting off contact.
Love is complicated at times, influenced by various factors leading to a breakup. If you haven’t fully let go of your feelings for the other person and aren’t sure if they’ve moved on from you, cutting off contact might make them think you no longer care at all.
At such times, if the other person wants to reconcile but can’t reach you, being blocked after finally mustering the courage to try can be demoralizing. They might think you don’t want to be bothered again, hence the cutoff. It could be interpreted as a sign of falling out of love and being heartlessly resolute.
Sometimes, the end of a relationship can be triggered by accumulated minor conflicts that escalate. For someone whose emotions are unsettled, a breakup might slip out unintentionally, especially for couples past the honeymoon phase.
Once a relationship enters a dormant phase, boredom creeps in, akin to how a tired person craves a nap for a quick energy boost.
Love can lead to familiarity breeding contempt after the honeymoon phase, where flaws become more noticeable, leading to arguments and dissatisfaction. These accumulated minor conflicts can cause couples to break up during this “dormant phase.”
However, upon reflection, one might realize they aren’t entirely intolerant; it’s just a shift in mindset, lacking tolerance towards the other person.
Therefore, right after a breakup, there’s no rush to cut off contact. Take a step back, give each other some time, reassess the relationship to see if it’s truly impossible to continue.
Maybe you’ll forgive the other person quickly due to some small gestures, avoiding regret over losing the love of your life.
People often feel sad when losing something they love, especially the sense of security brought by a relationship. Those eager to cut off contact are usually afraid of losing someone. The more they try not to think about it, the more they miss them internally.
If it were you, would you choose to delete your ex’s contact information and cease all communication after a breakup?