In relationships between men and women, there are a lot of happiness and sweetness, but there are also many conflicts and misunderstandings.
In love, we always hope to be each other’s everything, especially for a woman who desires more security in love.
When a woman loves a man too deeply, she is more likely to do things that are hard to understand.
In relationships between men and women, there should be a certain amount of distance and space.
Women shouldn’t do this one thing in relationships with men, or else the men will become increasingly annoyed.
At the beginning of the article, I want to share a friend’s love story with everyone:
We met through work. At first, he pursued me by finding all kinds of reasons to be by my side, staying late with me at work, having meals together, and even being there when I was sick.
To be honest, I am an independent and strong-willed girl who is used to being alone. But having a boy willing to take care of you suddenly appearing by your side does touch your heart.
Initially, I didn’t pay much attention to his advances and even found it annoying. However, gradually, I was moved by his gentleness and thoughtfulness.
Later, we started a relationship, and his meticulous care for me at the beginning of our relationship deeply moved me.
After being together for two years, we experienced many ups and downs.
Being with him made me more and more dependent, more and more clingy.
I remember a time when he always made excuses and brushed me off.
One evening after work, I cooked and waited for him, called many times with no answer, and sent messages with no response.
The next morning when he returned home, we had a big argument because of this. I told him, “Do you know I waited for you all night, no answer to my calls, no response to my messages. Do you still care about me at all?”
Driven by emotions, our arguments became more and more intense. Finally, he shouted, “Can you stop clinging to me every day? I’m really fed up with you.” After that, he slammed the door and left, leaving me alone in the room in pain.
After that incident, the distance between us grew, and we became like the most familiar strangers. I dared not rely on him too much, and he no longer showed the care he used to.
Two years later, we chose to break up, without trying to hold on to each other.
I share my story to remind every girl that in love, never depend too much on a man, because when a man doesn’t love you anymore, everything you do will only make him annoyed.
After hearing this girl’s story, I deeply agree. There are no ready-made good men in this world. Many men’s goodness is actually trained by a woman’s grievances and sadness.
Being together should be about blending and refining each other, not one willingly giving while the other accepts as a matter of course. Both should complement each other, influence each other, rather than sacrificing to win love.
The principle of love is mutual attraction. Only by becoming stronger can you truly hold a man’s heart. If you only cling to a man, in the end, you will only push him away.
An author once wrote, “She became very low, low to the dust when she saw him. But she was happy because a flower blossomed from the dust in her heart.”
Actually, when a person loves in a humble way, they tend to receive less love and care, less attention and cherish. No matter how beautiful the relationship is, it will eventually be lost.
Don’t rely too much on a man, whether in love or after marriage. As a woman, learn to bravely be yourself. The more you care about someone, the more you cling to them, the more the relationship slips away like sand in your hand.
In relationships between men and women, it’s important to maintain a certain distance. When the relationship becomes closer, we should learn to be independent because in this world, no one can accompany another forever.
As a woman, always believe that if you bloom, the gentle breeze will come, if you shine, the universe will arrange. Instead of focusing on a man, focus on improving yourself.