They say:
“Hit the snake’s weak spot.”
In anything, you have to grasp the key to achieve success more easily.
Of course, love is no exception. In love, you also need to grasp the key for the love between two people to become sweeter.
Voltaire once said:
“The noble elements in love are no less than the gentle elements, the power to uplift is no less than the power to wither, and sometimes it can even inspire other virtues.”
Love sometimes, as Voltaire said, can inspire different virtues in people.
Women need to be good at applying the power of love, learn to treat men reasonably in love, only then can the feelings between two people get better.
To hit the snake’s weak spot and grasp the key to things.
Praise Men More
A few years ago, a scientist in the United States conducted a study which proved:
When women receive compliments from others, they may doubt themselves: “Do I really deserve the praise?” But when men receive compliments, they are very happy, feeling recognized by others.
This phenomenon is innate in most men, starting from when they were young.
The scientist once conducted an experiment in a village and met a little boy at the village entrance. Although the boy appeared at the village entrance, he was not from the village and was there for the first time, so everything in the village was quite unfamiliar to him.
The boy met a little girl and they caught ants together.
The girl had already caught a small bottle of ants, but the boy had not caught any because the girl, being a local, was faster at catching ants.
Finally, the boy caught an ant. The girl jumped up and applauded, saying to the boy:
“You are amazing, you are the most talented person I’ve ever seen.”
Hearing this, the boy was very happy. The scientist visited the village again after a few weeks and found that the boy had been following the girl all this time.
Men have always been like this since they were young, liking others to praise them. Even though they may not be outstanding sometimes, when they receive compliments, men feel delighted.
Smart women know that when a man achieves something, they should know how to praise him. This is when men will feel a sense of accomplishment.
If you are with a man and often feel that you are the most important one, that what he does is unimportant, and that you are always right while he is wrong, then the man will feel that you do not appreciate him.
When women are with men, the first thing is to make the man feel acknowledged and appreciated for him to love the woman more.
Just like in today’s society, many women are very outstanding, competing in their careers among men, achieving remarkable results.
However, often these assertive women do not have a happy marriage and end up divorcing their husbands because their husbands feel worthless compared to them.
Therefore, women should know to praise their husbands more, making them feel useful, or praise their boyfriends more, making them feel charismatic.
Subtly Remind Men When They Encounter Problems
In life, due to the high pressure in today’s world, men also encounter problems. When men face problems, they may not know how to solve them.
Men also have a sense of pride, so sometimes if women openly point out the problem when men face it, men may not be able to accept it.
Smart women understand that men value their pride, so sometimes they should not point out things too bluntly. A subtle approach is more effective in capturing a man’s heart and making him feel understood.
Women Should Manage Relationships with Men’s Parents Well
“Filial piety is the root of all virtues.”
Therefore, filial piety is essential. In life, as a true man, he will be filial to his parents.
But here, filial piety does not mean blind obedience, but when parents need the man, he and his wife should be there promptly.
Some women, after marrying, discover that their mother-in-law has a difficult temper. In such situations, women should not confront the mother-in-law but should know how to speak gently to resolve conflicts.
Sometimes, if the conflict cannot be resolved, women can choose to turn a blind eye or even suggest moving out.
But never let conflicts with the man’s parents escalate. In that case, the man will be in a dilemma, like what Zhang Ailing said:
“Like a sandwich cookie, torn between two sides.”
Sometimes marriages are like this, making women feel unsuccessful in the marriage and uncomfortable without the support of their own family.
But in life, there are always many unpleasant things. After encountering these, sometimes enduring it may lead to gaining something more important.
Women Should Be Independent
In a TV series, the female protagonist and the male protagonist were college sweethearts. After graduation, the female protagonist married the male protagonist, and everyone envied the couple.
Although many envied the couple, after many years of marriage and having a son, their marriage fell apart.
Many may think the reason for the failed marriage was the husband having an affair. However, in this series, the female protagonist increasingly did not understand her husband. The husband faced high pressure at work but had no one at home to understand him.
Many believe that if someone cheats, they will choose a pretty, young mistress. But in this series, the male protagonist’s mistress was different, not as attractive as his wife.
Moreover, the mistress had a child and was divorced.
This incident tells us that women must learn to be independent, both financially and mentally. You must be self-reliant financially and understand men mentally.
A woman who cannot be independent mentally is like a paralyzed body, lying in bed motionless. Initially, your partner may take care of you because they love you, but over time, they will realize you are beyond help and leave.
Those who test others often end up failing.
Human nature cannot withstand tests. Only when you are independent can you gain the other person’s heart completely.
When doing things, grasp the key points, and the same goes for love.