“Regardless of who they are, you only truly understand someone when you are together every day.”
You only know what someone is like when you spend every day with them.
If someone has a decent relationship with you but is often not around, after a long time without meeting, you’ll find that when you meet again, they are no longer the same.
In today’s society, there is a popular saying: “Distance creates beauty.”
This phrase has misled many people, causing them to miss the opportunity to truly understand each other.
No matter what kind of relationship you have with someone, understanding them is crucial, especially when you decide to move forward with that person.
The best way to understand is to be together every day; that’s what true understanding means.
Understanding someone’s attitude towards you through intimate contact
Why do many people get divorced nowadays? It’s because they didn’t take the time to understand each other well before marriage, leading to divorce when problems arise.
The story of Wang Baoqiang and Ma Rong once received much praise, but their divorce later left many people sighing.
Only after deep understanding can one realize how the other person truly feels about them, getting to know the person’s character through intimate contact.
Ma Rong, who graduated from Northwest University with outstanding looks, is a case in point.
No one expected such a seemingly excellent woman to do what she did.
This also underscores the importance of spending every day with someone before marriage to truly understand who they are.
Don’t wait until after marriage and children to regret not knowing the person well enough.
Many people nowadays are in long-distance relationships, but apart from phone calls and countless texts, there’s not much else.
Do you really understand each other? Do you truly know what kind of person they are? Apparently, there’s still much we don’t understand about these aspects.
Everyone should adequately prepare for their marriage and not rush into marrying someone.
If you plan to marry someone, consider being together every day before marriage to deeply understand them.
Romance is fake, daily life is real
Only by being together every day can a couple experience the realities of daily life.
In a relationship, the romantic moments can sometimes be deceiving because people tend to be extra kind and attentive in good times.
However, if a couple can maintain their feelings after experiencing the mundane aspects of life, then that relationship is worth cherishing.
There was a comment on Weibo once that said: “One thinks their lover is wonderful because they’ve experienced romance, while one thinks their spouse is not great because they’ve experienced daily life together.”
If someone treats you exceptionally well during the romantic phase, it may seem like they love you. But if you marry them based solely on that, you may not truly understand them.
Only when you face the daily grind together, and they still treat you well, should you consider a lifelong commitment.
After experiencing the ups and downs of daily life together, a person who remains grateful instead of showing impatience is someone worth progressing with.
Many couples start off passionately but grow cold after being together every day.
So, if you want to see how someone truly is, spend every day with them and go through the routine of daily life.
Discovering who someone truly is by genuinely integrating into their life
When two people are together every day, you genuinely become part of each other’s lives.
Many people stay on the surface when spending time with someone, like going shopping or dining together.
Whether it’s shopping or dining together, these are leisure activities.
If you think you can understand someone just by going out or dining together, then you only know them superficially.
To truly understand someone, you need to go beyond their leisure activities and understand other aspects of their life.
Many people tend to superficially understand their partner when choosing to be with them.
You may think you know someone well, but then they do something you can’t understand, leading you to say, “I misjudged them.”
It’s not that you misjudged them but rather that you never truly understood them.
So, to understand someone fully, you need to explore all aspects of their life, and the way to do that is by being together every day.
Distance only creates illusions, not the true nature of a person
Most people believe distance is a good thing, and many are moved by the poem “The Farthest Distance in the World.”
However, real life isn’t like poetry; sometimes, distance doesn’t create beauty but unexpected barriers.
Distance hinders the channel for mutual understanding and pulls people apart.
An adult should no longer believe in the notion that distance creates beauty. Instead, they should spend quality time with someone they care about to truly understand them.
Sometimes when you look at a famous painting from afar, it seems captivating, but as you get closer, you realize the details are unclear.
Similarly, some people pay a high price for a painting, thinking it’s beautiful, only to regret it upon closer inspection.
The same goes for relationships; only by attentive communication and spending every day together can you discover the strengths and weaknesses of the other person.
Only through deep understanding can you communicate better with them. Sometimes, only after truly understanding someone can you comprehend their actions.
Understanding someone deeply starts with being together every day. When you learn about their daily habits and actions, you’ll discover who they truly are.
Fate is crucial, but understanding someone is even more important. It’s not always about fate running out but rather not truly understanding each other, leading to the end of a relationship.