“Mom, Are You Satisfied Only When You See Your Daughter Homeless?” A Daughter’s Complaint
What kind of marriage leads to happiness? Everyone wants to know the answer. Many women, once in love, ignore everything and even sacrifice themselves for their partners.
But little do they know, this is the most foolish thing to do. Marriage is not just about two people, but also about two families. When it comes to marriage, listening to parents more can help avoid pitfalls.
Pepe has been married to her husband for 3 years. Her parents were strongly against this prospective son-in-law.
However, for the sake of love, Pepe chose to marry him against her parents’ wishes.
In the end, Pepe’s parents had to let her be. But even after marriage, they still disapproved of her husband.
Pepe thought she was marrying for love, but soon after the wedding, his true colors showed. He not only ignored Pepe but also became physically abusive during arguments.
Pepe gave birth to a daughter first, but her husband wanted a son. So this year, Pepe chose to have a second child. Amid the trivialities of life, they continued to argue. When Pepe was five months pregnant, her husband hit her again.
This time, Pepe ran back to her parents’ home. Seeing their daughter in distress, her parents, feeling helpless, said, “We warned you not to marry him, but you insisted. Now, you run back to us with problems, and we can’t be bothered.”
Seeing her parents upset, Pepe didn’t say much and just complained to her mother, “Mom, at this point, can’t you stop blaming me? Are you only satisfied when you see your daughter homeless on the streets?”
Facing Pepe, her mother, feeling bitter and helpless, could only hold her daughter and say while crying, “Silly girl, if only you had listened to us back then, you wouldn’t have to suffer like this.”
After hearing their story, perhaps everyone can relate a little. Many women have suffered in relationships, but it serves as a wake-up call for us women.
Love the Right Person
Lin Huiyin said, “If someone doesn’t value you, there’s no need to hold them in your heart.”
Marriage is a gamble for each of us. At the beginning, we don’t know the outcome. But to find happiness in marriage, the key is to love the right person.
Our life is finite, and we will meet various people. Spending a lifetime with someone you love is a great joy.
Loving the right person leads to happiness. If you end up with the wrong person, it will be unbearable and painful. Marriage is like a gamble, with the outcome uncertain.
Appreciating a person starts with looks, respects talents, matches personalities, lasts with kindness, and ends with character.
For a woman, a man’s character is crucial. When you choose the right partner, there’s more potential for a happy marriage. If you end up with the wrong person, no matter how much you give, it will be in vain.
Listen to Parents’ Advice
They say a girl in love has zero IQ, and that’s not entirely wrong.
Marriage is a major life event, so before tying the knot, listening to parents’ advice is wise.
Many women feel grateful before marriage, thinking they must marry this man.
Although during courtship, the couple may seem loving and sweet, marriage is different. Marriage involves more daily life matters. A man may be perfect before marriage, but few remain the same after.
Yang Jiang once said, “How good a person is doesn’t matter, how good a person is to you does.”
There’s a saying, not heeding elders’ advice leads to immediate losses. If you don’t consider carefully, even marriage won’t bring happiness.
In this life, besides parents, there are few who truly care for you. Before marriage, many men lavish affection, but after marriage, many change.
So, listening to parents’ advice won’t hurt.
Be Independent
Most conflicts in marriage stem from your lack of excellence.
Lin Huiyin said, “Love is not something one person struggles to maintain.”
Especially for a woman in real life, being independent is crucial to make a man love you more.
After marriage, many women place all their hopes on a man, yearning for a wealthy life. But this thinking is foolish.
As a woman, you should strive to become better to earn a man’s love. Placing all your hopes on a man will only leave you battered.
Love doesn’t come for free. If you want a man to care for you, you must have value. Only then will a man be unable to leave you. If you appear too lowly before a man, you’ll be deemed cheap.
So, before marriage, every woman should open her eyes wide and marry a suitable husband.