A girl lost at Truth or Dare chose Truth. The question she drew was: “How did your last relationship end?” She smiled and replied, “My last relationship lasted just over a week. We met online, but it was a long-distance relationship. He was studying two hours away by car, and then we broke up.”
Naturally, someone asked, “Why did you break up?”
She innocently blinked and said, “I initiated it. I didn’t think it was meaningful, and I didn’t really like him, so we broke up.”
It wasn’t until much later that I realized many relationships don’t involve genuine affection. Some are for fun, some are compromises, some are just for convenience, and some are “casual, no big deal, definitely not leading to marriage.” Very few relationships are grounded in genuine, cautious, and lasting affection. Thus, even if life is difficult, I endure joy and sorrow for you, traversing mountains and valleys for you.
I have some very attractive friends who have been single all their lives. For example, my best friend is strikingly beautiful, and her face and figure are exceptional. She stands out, and next to someone like me, she looks as beautiful as a light cloud.
She has never been in a relationship because she’s not interested in the men around her. She doesn’t trust online dating and is not willing to go on blind dates. When I asked her what kind of guy she likes, she said, “I’m not picky, but let me tell you, it’s really hard to get into a relationship.”
Yes, it’s really hard.
Let’s analyze. Good character is essential in a boyfriend, but it’s hard to find. Good guys are in high demand everywhere, and it’s not easy to find one that meets our standards. My friend told me the other day that it’s hard to find a guy who’s easy to get along with. There are too many guys who are hard to figure out and have an uneasy relationship with.
This is just the threshold. Most girls also consider height, appearance, education, or special talents, and it’s a combination selection, so many people are passed over. Not to mention other factors. Even if you meet someone you really like, is he single? Does he like your type? Even if he likes you, is he ready for a relationship now?
If you can date anyone, then it’s not difficult to get into a relationship. It’s not hard no matter how good or bad you are. It may be unpleasant to hear, but there are so many guys. Someone will definitely not reject you.
But if you must be with someone you really like, then it’s very difficult to get into a relationship. Everything has to be just right.
What kind of girls struggle most to get into a relationship? In short, it’s those who “must be with someone they really like.”
In recent years, I’ve seen that the more outstanding a girl is, the more rocky her love life. In other words, high standards for oneself and for relationships are hard to meet. Being unwilling to compromise is always the most difficult way of life.
Especially in relationships.
Another friend of mine, a finance prodigy with a baby face, broke up with her first boyfriend in college because she felt he was “not ambitious.” I asked how he wasn’t ambitious, and she said, “His school isn’t very good, and he’s not doing well. He’s not even a student council member in his junior year.”
… I really wanted to educate her at the time, to tell her that being a student council member isn’t important at all. But then, I thought that everyone has their own standards for relationships. People with high standards really don’t want to tolerate some pitfalls, no matter how trivial they may seem to others.
In the end, she found someone she really liked. Now, three years later, she’s with a senior from her junior high school who was an entrepreneur in college and is now pursuing a doctorate at a top university.
Of course, I have to say, I can’t guarantee that all girls with high standards for relationships will eventually get what they want. Life isn’t a TV drama, and no one will force a happy ending for ratings. Being single is your choice, and whether you can meet someone you like and be with them in the end is your luck.
But if, in order to relieve temporary anxiety, you choose to be with someone you “don’t like that much,” then by the time the person you really like appears, you’ll either miss the opportunity or have already exhausted your true feelings and passion for love.
That’s a shame.
I have a very lucky friend who has been with her high school classmate since high school. She secretly admired him for a long time, then waited for him to confess. They’ve always gotten along very well. They were in a long-distance relationship throughout college, and now, after four years, their relationship is still sweet.
I know that such smooth relationships are rare.
Most people have to be lonely for a long time, be anxious for a long time, and go through a lot of “Are you still single?” and “Why not lower your standards?” They experience a lot of misunderstanding, mockery, and even some wrong people and misunderstandings that go nowhere.
In movies, there are always countless obstacles before two people who love each other get together. Time, distance, money, and third parties. We always feel that this is too false, too much like the movies, but real life is just like that. Before you meet the person you love, there are countless temptations and countless forks in the road. One moment of vulnerability and you might want to just find someone to settle for because being single is too painful.
No, being single isn’t painful at all.
It’s painful to reluctantly settle for someone you don’t love.
So, it’s better to love yourself first, have a relationship with yourself, learn to love yourself, and when that person appears, you’ll naturally be able to love them. If you’re picking others but not making any changes yourself, then what do you have to demand from others to meet your ideal partner?
In the end, how you are is how your partner will be. If you want an excellent partner, then you should strive to be excellent first.