Writing about this topic isn’t about encouraging women to live according to what men like. It’s sad to mimic others in life.
No matter how old we are, we should keep demanding growth and progress from ourselves. But it’s for truly elevating our spiritual level, not for anyone else. As we gradually improve ourselves, we naturally attract outstanding partners who match our level.
If we can’t do better in this life, at least we can be authentic, live as ourselves, and be true to ourselves!
Understanding what kind of women excellent men prefer is a reference point. Looking at the world and ourselves from the opposite sex’s perspective often brings unexpected inspiration to our growth.
So, what kind of women do excellent men like the most?
Actually, it can be summed up in three words: genuine, kind, and beautiful!
Because this is a common pursuit of humanity for beauty. But this answer is a bit abstract, so I want to provide practical emotional knowledge that is down-to-earth. Still in the explanatory style of a scientific mindset.
Apart from the fleeting sexual attraction that new experiences bring, women who can make men deeply in love from the bottom of their hearts mostly have the following characteristics:
Pure-hearted, emotionally rich, and mature
At first glance, it seems a bit contradictory. How can someone be both pure and mature? The accuracy of Chinese vocabulary is reflected here:
What is purity? Think of the innocent nature of a child, think of the pureness like a lotus flower, that’s the feeling. Of course, beautifying “immaturity” as “purity” out of courtesy is not included here.
The opposite of “simple” is “complex,” the opposite of “pure” is “impure.” Therefore, the opposite of “simple-hearted” should be “scheming” or “calculating.”
I once had the privilege of listening to the Tibetan high lama, Reting Rinpoche, in Sydney. He said:
“A window is actually like your own heart. Through this window, you can see the outside world, whether it is distorted or not depends on this window. Those who know how to clean the window are those who know how to practice.”
I believe the purer the soul, the cleaner the inner window, the clearer one can see the essence of the world, the more they can see, understand, and accept richer emotions and thoughts.
A person with a sufficiently rich spiritual world, like a treasure trove that is never exhausted, will be very popular as a friend, let alone in attracting the opposite sex. Stay pure in mature years, possess a rich inner world in simplicity, be a spiritual woman, be a beautiful presence in this world.
Independent in personality, always refreshing
Men are fickle, they love novelty, they look at the grass on the other side, not thinking too much is not manly. The distinction between noble and base in sexual matters lies in the strength of self-restraint, the allowance and limitation of the environment, the hesitancy and decisiveness under the burden of culture.
Attractive women are like this:
Living for themselves, with unique personalities, living passionately, that’s always refreshing. It is this constant freshness that happens to match men’s nature of easily getting tired, giving them a sense of novelty and attraction.
When you can be yourself, immerse yourself in your own brilliance every day, even if you are in constant contact with him, even living together, he will feel like you are “not under his control.” A moderate sense of mystery is as important as a moderate tension.
He knows that besides him and love, you have equally important things of your own. For him, you are an uncontrollable existence, the one who is always unpredictable and mischievous.
Having an independent personality, treating life and oneself passionately, living for oneself, living beautifully, the more a woman can generate a permanent attraction to a man. This is equality, being equal to a man is truly living out the essence of being a woman.
We can rely on men emotionally, but we must maintain independence in character. We can admire or even idolize men, but we should keep our own thoughts and opinions. We can have a deep connection with our partners, but we must maintain a distance in our own worlds.
Capable of love: Understanding, appreciating, and encouraging
It’s said that men think with their lower body. Even if that’s the case, it’s only temporary. They are not foolish; as the novelty wears off, the importance of physical attraction diminishes, and what men truly care about is a woman’s heart and mind.
Firstly, it’s a woman’s heart. Men know very well if a woman truly loves them.
However, many women confuse love with possession. They use the name of love to try to own, control, and reshape men, wanting every move of the man to align with their wishes, as if men are meant to serve them.
Sorry, that’s not love. Such “love” not only fails to move men but also drives them away.
Some women turn themselves into men’s mothers, thinking love means meticulous care in daily life, even serving men hand and foot.
Sorry, this isn’t the love we desire. Such dedication only leads women to become resentful. Only a biological mother can selflessly give. And you are not his mother; one day, you will question if your efforts are reciprocated.
What kind of love do men hope to receive from women?
Very simple, much easier than worrying about household chores and other trivial matters, it boils down to three things:
Firstly, genuinely appreciate him, even with his flaws, even when he messes up, accept him without any hint of disdain. In a man’s words, this is called being understanding and lovely.
Secondly, be grateful for every effort and sacrifice he makes, don’t take it for granted. Express your gratitude to him appropriately and timely, let him know that his efforts make you happy.
Why do men prefer women who can act coquettish? Coquettish behavior is just a surface display, reflecting an inner vulnerability, showing approval and admiration towards men. Men feel satisfied because of this.
Thirdly, a good woman is a man’s emotional harbor, where he can lick his wounds no matter the situation. If a man’s greatest value to the world is creation and contribution, then a good woman can most inspire a man to unleash all his potential to create and contribute.
A woman’s wisdom lies in appreciating a man’s intelligence. Perhaps men are beyond redemption. A good woman doesn’t think she can save a man; she only uses her singing, smile, and tears to comfort him. Her love encourages a man to save himself or face destruction bravely.
Broad-minded and free-spirited
Women who can fulfill the first three qualities will undoubtedly attract and keep outstanding men.
Only when your self-worth is high can you be broad-minded and free-spirited.
In a relationship, if you face neglect or harm, have the courage to leave at any moment, without dragging it out, and perhaps never return. Just like Faye Wong’s decisiveness towards Nicholas Tse in the past.
Because you are not afraid of losing one person in front of you; if this one goes, there will always be another, maybe even better!
Women with this confidence are felt by men. Nobody is perfect, everyone has a bit of a “judging others” mindset. The less you fear his departure, the more reluctant he is to leave. The more you push and pull, the more he feels cheated and wants to escape.
But a woman’s decisiveness is not for revenge; what he becomes in the future is none of your concern. Focus your energy on the present and future. If one day he is sincere enough, and I am pleased, I don’t rule out the possibility of rekindling the past. The premise is that he sincerely acknowledges his mistakes and truly repents.
If you cheat, it’s your loss, you’re out immediately, no negotiation. If you seek reconciliation, only to realize after a turn that you love someone else? Sincerely admit your mistakes, make a genuine effort, if you can please me, fine, you can come back, after all, I am willing to enjoy the present. But, make me unhappy again, don’t expect a third chance.
To sum it up: pure-hearted, emotionally rich, mature, independent in personality, always refreshing, appreciative, grateful, and encouraging, broad-minded, free-spirited. These are the rare qualities of a good woman in the eyes of outstanding men!
Such women truly have the confidence to live in the moment, enjoy the present, not worry about the outcome, and not ask about the future!