Mr. Lee went on a blind date with a 36-year-old female PhD student. He thought to himself, “A PhD student, she’s got to be intelligent and classy.”
When they met, he found that she was indeed classy, just like he imagined. But as they talked, he realized she had some strange ideas.
One thing really bothered him. After dinner, she asked him to have sex. She said, “We should have a baby soon. Then we can get married.”
Mr. Lee was furious. He said, “I’m not a breeding tool!”
He stormed off and blocked all contact with her.
It was supposed to be a nice blind date. They even liked each other. But because of her request, they ended up fighting, and the relationship was over.
People Love Those Who Love Themselves
Bishu Min said:
“One day you’ll realize that a woman’s self-respect and self-love are more valuable than her dowry or talent.”
You’re on a blind date, so you should treat the relationship seriously. Asking someone to have sex on the first date is disrespectful to them and to yourself. It shows that you don’t respect yourself, and you don’t know how to take care of yourself.
People love those who respect themselves. If you don’t respect yourself, one day you’ll find that even the people who love you most will stop loving you.
When a woman asks a man to have sex on the first date, it shows her true intentions. For a man, this woman is a no-go. No matter how attractive she is, her request will kill any interest he might have had.
Imagine if a man asked you to have sex on the first date. You’d think he was a creep. You’d think he was someone who treated love like a cheap toy.
That’s why if a woman asks a man to have sex on the first date, it makes her look like a loose woman, someone who doesn’t care about herself. Even if the man had some feelings for her, her words would make him think she was scary.
Someone who doesn’t love themselves doesn’t know how to love others. They shouldn’t expect others to love them.
People love those who love themselves. It’s a timeless truth.
Reading Is for Wisdom
People read to gain wisdom. As the ancients said:
“Read ten thousand books, travel ten thousand miles.”
Reading makes you wise. Reading makes you intelligent. Reading makes you noble. Reading makes you civilized. Reading makes you eloquent.
Since ancient times, reading has been considered a noble pursuit. That’s why so many people want to go to college, then get a master’s degree, then a PhD. Our lives are spent mostly in school.
But some people just read a lot on the surface. Deep down, they haven’t truly reached the level of understanding that comes from reading.
True reading isn’t about how many degrees you have or how long you’ve been in school. It’s about learning knowledge, knowing how to deal with things, respecting others, and respecting yourself.
A 36-Year-Old PhD Student Who Thinks She’s Above It All
This 36-year-old PhD student thought she had read a lot of books. She thought she could just ask this man to have sex, and he would agree. She thought she was attractive and talented.
Sometimes, you shouldn’t think too highly of yourself. When you ask someone to have sex on the first date, and have a baby, you’re actually lowering yourself in their eyes.
Reading hasn’t made you wise, and it hasn’t taught you how to be a good person. It’s just made you more open-minded.
These days, education can be misleading. There are plenty of talented people who aren’t as well-educated.
Our degrees have become a tool for getting jobs, not a part of self-improvement.
Sometimes, reading is useless. It’s useless because it doesn’t teach us true values, and it doesn’t help us improve our character.
Women Shouldn’t Be So Casual
Women shouldn’t be so casual. If you’re casual, people will look down on you. The man this 36-year-old PhD student met on a blind date was a good guy. If he wasn’t, he would have taken advantage of her.
If he had bad intentions, he would have thought, “If she doesn’t care about herself, then I’ll have sex with her. Then I’ll say it was consensual. What can she do?”
That’s why women should be careful. If you’re too casual, men will treat you casually, and you might end up with a disease or get emotionally hurt.
No matter what, you should always be someone who respects themselves. Don’t be so casual.
It’s Impressive to Be Clear-Headed
A man who can stay clear-headed about his sexual needs is impressive.
Many men can’t resist a woman’s advances, especially when she asks them to have sex. They lose their heads, and they don’t think about the consequences. They just have sex.
Some men have sex with women because they’re tempted. Then they get into trouble. They lose their reputation, and they might even get in legal trouble.
So a man who can stay clear-headed about sex is a wise man. He’s responsible for himself and for others. He’s the kind of man who deserves a good woman.
On blind dates, women shouldn’t be too forward. It’s great to be well-read, but don’t let it make you arrogant.
Truly successful people respect themselves, they respect others, and they act wisely. They know their limits.
First impressions are important, especially on a first date. Women should avoid certain things on blind dates. They should avoid certain words.