Why do emotional betrayals happen? Is it due to overwhelming temptation or human nature?
No matter how one justifies betraying emotions, one thing is clear: when a person chooses to betray emotions, it means they’ve actually given up on their own standards and self-discipline.
Those who betray emotions will find all sorts of excuses and reasons—from their perspective, they naturally need to justify their actions. But if you look at those who don’t betray emotions, you’ll realize that the choice to betray emotions is primarily about being loyal to oneself rather than to a spouse.
Why do some people never betray emotions? It’s not about their marital status—whether their marriage is happy or unhappy. There are people who will never betray emotions because, in their self-awareness, betraying emotions equals betraying themselves.
Everyone has their own inner standards that they won’t cross. Going against those standards is like betraying oneself, leading to self-disdain. Some people won’t steal or commit crimes not out of fear, but because it goes against their true selves.
So, “betrayal” is like a rule one sets for themselves—it’s about self-standards. Betrayal breaks this rule, leading to self-disgust. It’s similar to how certain individuals abstain from certain things like meat or killing—it’s a matter of principles and respect.
Continuing this line of thought, you’ll understand why some say betrayal happens either never or multiple times. Once someone breaks their inner rule, the likelihood of sticking to it diminishes. For them, continuing to abide by it loses meaning as the “golden rule” has been broken.
Many who betray emotions seem irresponsible and unmotivated in their aftermath responses. They know that once the betrayal occurs, there’s no turning back. The collapse of the image they presented to you is irreparable.
This conclusion resides in both the subconscious of the betrayer and the betrayed.
For the betrayed, the only way to be sure someone won’t betray you is if they never have. Once betrayal occurs, it’s hard to trust that the person won’t do it again.
This aftermath is perhaps the deepest and hardest to overcome in such relationships.
Many fail to see their own subconscious, thinking that trying to make things work and continue the marriage will lead to happiness. This is an idealized outcome.
Even if the betrayal is resolved, the deep emotional gap left by the betrayal remains. The sense of unity is often lost due to the betrayal.
Hence, the common scenario of things not getting better and not being able to leave.
Marriage is considered the greatest test of human nature. To sustain a lifelong marriage, one must suppress the evil within and showcase the good. Only then can the marriage be happy and successful.
Ultimately, betrayal is just a conclusion without undergoing a test.
Humans inherently possess both good and evil. There are no purely good or evil individuals. Those aiming for goodness might reveal their dark side if they can’t withstand a test, as seen in emotional betrayals. Once betrayal occurs, the layers of deceit, lies, and denials unfold.
Experiencing the entire process from betrayal to divorce reveals the darkest sides of human nature, shattering all preconceptions.
From a human perspective, betrayal simply exposes the evil side, as every married individual initially aspired to be a good spouse, a “good” person.
What is good and evil?
It’s a personal choice, a belief—only those truly understanding the harm in betraying others will refrain from betraying emotions.
While fickleness may be human nature, loyalty is the choice of the kind-hearted.