A while back, I read a book that had a passage that struck me deeply. It said:
“If life were nothing but first encounters, why would autumn winds sadden the painted fan? With time, hearts change, and what was once familiar becomes foreign.”
Although this was written by an ancient poet, modern-day people also experience such phenomena in relationships.
Everyone feels that their partner is perfect when they first meet. The relationship is great. But as time goes by, the love fades, and hearts drift apart.
When surrounded by many people, some may instantly feel a connection and envision a future together. During the honeymoon phase, promises are made, and thoughts of a blissful life together dominate.
So, the couple starts planning their future, discussing marriage and their life together. They believe that being with this person will lead to a fairytale life. But after marriage, many regret their decision.
Before marriage, they were inseparable. After tying the knot, they argue all the time. This scenario is common.
Sometimes, you may feel like your marriage can’t go on, but you hesitate to divorce because of your children and parents. Marriage is no longer just about the two of you; it’s complicated.
When the marriage seems unsalvageable but not entirely doomed, there is a compromise:
Take a break from each other for a while. Don’t stay together all day.
Distance Enhances Beauty
Distance can be beautiful. If you find yourself growing to dislike your partner more, trying to accept them only intensifies your aversion.
Smart people know that distance can be beneficial. If you can’t stand someone, don’t force yourself to be near them.
Everyone has their habits. When you step back, you may realize the past was good because you got used to each other.
Sometimes, being together all the time makes you focus on flaws and overlook strengths. Creating space may help you see those strengths.
Being together all the time isn’t always ideal.
Taking Time Apart Helps Both Parties Calm Down
There was a couple in the neighborhood who used to fight constantly. After a break, their relationship improved.
Apart from arguing, they did nothing at home, making the children cry. Eventually, the husband took a business trip.
During this time, the wife reflected on their relationship and realized her unfriendliness. Both calmed down and resolved their issues when he returned.
Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, hurtful words are spoken. It’s crucial to be mindful and refrain from saying hurtful things.
Learning to stay calm can strengthen the relationship.
Separation Avoids Unnecessary Conflicts
After a break, you may avoid unnecessary conflicts. If a small issue arises and gets blown out of proportion, distancing yourselves can prevent severe arguments or physical altercations.
In such situations, it’s not about fear but about preserving the relationship’s positivity.
Sometimes, don’t let a single incident damage your bond. If being together aggravates the situation, take a break until things settle, then reconnect.
Marriage requires mutual effort. Constant arguments over small matters can erode the relationship.
Smart people distance themselves when a minor issue jeopardizes their relationship.
Appreciating What You Have Only After Losing It
Sometimes, you only realize the value of something after losing it. When you think your partner is worthless and contemplate divorce, it’s essential to create space.
Let the woman visit her family or engage in activities she enjoys. Alternatively, let the man stay elsewhere for a few days for work or business.
When apart, you’ll realize each other’s value. Don’t overestimate your independence. Learn to appreciate the time spent together.
Sometimes, you only cherish something after losing it. The familiar may seem insignificant until it’s gone.
Love works the same way. The person you consider leaving today might be the one you want back in the future. Avoid creating regrets in your marriage.
Life is tough; cherish every moment.