Some time ago, I saw a comment online:
“Many women want a lover who won’t change their heart. In life, it’s not about the quantity of friends, but the quality. Whether it’s friendship or love.”
People often have momentary impulses, but lack everlasting devotion.
I remember last year, I occasionally looked at my aunt’s Facebook and saw this passage:
“People are very prone to change, especially a man’s heart.”
A man’s heart is fickle, so many women lack a sense of security.
Perhaps many women think: if you want someone to keep loving you, you should compete and strive to make that person smile.
In reality, the women who can be cherished by men for a lifetime are not the ones who know how to compete.
Rather, they are often the ones who understand the art of “not competing.”
Finding someone who loves you is crucial
Relationships aren’t about competing or fighting, but about finding someone who loves you. It’s crucial to find someone who loves you.
In a TV show, a relationship expert said:
“Smart women will marry a man who loves them. Only foolish women spend their days worrying about the person they love.”
Often in life, we see women in palace dramas competing and fighting.
These women vie for the emperor’s favor, but the one truly cherished by the emperor is the one who doesn’t compete.
The reason why the emperor loves this woman who doesn’t compete is simply that he loves her. Therefore, if she refrains from competing, the emperor will love her.
So, smart women in life will find someone who loves them. This way, they won’t tire themselves out.
Only by finding a man who deeply loves you, a man who loves you to the core, will the chances of him changing his heart be minimal, and you can be continuously cherished.
Love isn’t about competing, it’s about attracting
In this world, fame and fortune can be earned and fought for, but love cannot be.
If a man continues to love you, you don’t need to compete for his love. But if a man has already changed his heart, what’s the use of competing?
It’s essential to be strong as an individual. Many things are attained through attraction, not by force. As a poem goes:
“If you bloom, butterflies will come.”
When you continuously improve yourself, when you enhance your thoughts, you can attract the right person, and this love can last.
Easily obtained things are not cherished by men
If a woman competes with other women for a man, she diminishes her worth in the man’s eyes.
A book mentions:
“Men have strong conquest desires. If a woman deliberately throws herself at a man, she loses her appeal in his eyes.”
In recent years, a phrase has often been repeated:
“Things acquired easily are not cherished.”
Especially for a woman, if she loses her dignity and competes for a man, she diminishes her value in the man’s eyes.
If a woman abandons her dignity and self-respect in front of a man, he will see her as casual. He can casually date or break up with her.
In a TV show, the host said:
“When someone treats you a certain way, reflect on your own behavior.”
Sometimes, how others treat you is a result of your behavior.
Therefore, a smart woman will love a man, but she will also maintain her self-respect.
There are often friends who, when unable to obtain love, become resentful.
When they become resentful, they start competing and fighting for the man.
In reality, all this is unnecessary. True love can withstand the test of time. If a man’s love for you can’t endure time, it’s okay for that person to leave.
One should be grateful for every encounter in life but must also treat oneself better.
Women who can continuously be loved by men are often those who understand the art of “not competing.”
Relationships are different from other things. Love isn’t earned or seized because the person you love isn’t an object; they have their own independent thoughts.
In life, women should find someone who loves them to live happily ever after.
Just as a writer said:
“When young, many lose to the person they love. But one day, you will realize that the person you ultimately choose is the best for you.”